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KelaRoseIsBlue New Member 
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When I look back at what triggered this desire to lose weight, was when my mom started calling be "chunky" and "fatso." then my grandmother said that I have short fat legs, and she used to call me chunky. Now, I just can't stop loosing weight, its a desire to want to be thin that bad. I'm starting to cry myself to sleep every night. My mom wants to take my shopping for clothes (pants; god I hate shopping for pants) because she says I don't wear jeans anymore. Well its true, I stopped wearing shorts and skirts( 1. because its cold, 2. because my thighs are the biggest things out there) and now I mostly wear sweats. Gosh, if I were thin everything would be fine. I don't know.... I just feel.... fat. I haven't reached my goal weight.... just when you think everything is going great, something happens. |
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sweet kisses Senior Member 
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Omg if my mom called me fat I'd be horrified!!! I can't imagine why a mother or grandmother would call her daughter nasty names like that. I suppose if I was really, really overweight I wouldn't mind a couple of supportive nudges to lose weight, but the way your mom and grandma treat you about it is awful.Be careful about letting it get to you TOO much and becoming too obsessed with losing weight. I've heard that comments like that can cause girls to develop eating disorders, which I am sure is no picnic at all. (no pun intended.) And if its really, really dragging you down, maybe you could talk to them about it? Just mention how much it hurts when they call you names like that. That you wouldn't mind support in losing weight, but in a kinder manner? I don't know if thats something the relationship you have with them would allow, I'm just saying it could help. Maybe they don't know how much those names hurt you? |
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl Distinguished Member 
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Kela, I don't know if I can be of much help, but I have had similar problems. My grandmother started implying I was fat at a very young age. I was a chunky kid, but I grew out of it. In high school I was 140lbs. I didn't consider that fat, but my grandmother did. And that's when I stopped eating. I stopped eating for days at a time. I started jogging everytime I could, for miles and miles I would go. I lost weight. But it came at a price. I started to get sick. My family besides my grandmother were very concerned. My mom said she felt like I needed to be hospitalized. That's when I finally kinda realized what I was doing was ridiculous. I say "kinda" because I continued to abuse my body sometimes to lose weight. I still felt fat and everytime I gained weight I freaked out. Pretty soon it turned into bingeing. I'd starve for a few days and then I'd gorge. I'm still paying for that. It seems once a binger always a binger. Then I tried throwing up for awhile. My health was so terrible and I just kept gaining weight! Starvation works, for awhile, sure I lost weight, but then I gained, and gained and gained. I have pictures of me looking pale, sick, tired and bloated. It has been years since I've cleaned up my act and tried to fix my life, just about seven actually, and I'm still trying to lose that weight. I mean I didn't gain it all at once, I lost some here, gained some there. But ultimatley the bingeing I started doing because I starved myself led to my weight gain. When I got pregnant I gained a whole bunch of weight, when I went into labor my grandmother said "how's my fat girl doing?" Since then I've lost 57 pounds. That's three years of very hard work. I think it's much harder to lose weight after having something like a binge eating problem. Starving yourself will just result in defeat. My point is, people don't change (ie my grandmother, she still thinks I'm fat.) But feeling bad about that won't help you. Loving yourself and taking care of yourself (a healthy diet and exercise) will help you lose weight. I still haven't stood up to my grandmother, I don't know if I ever will. But I know that I'm a much better person than she is. And I realize a person's worth is more than what the scale reflects. Kela, you are a worthy person, take care of yourself, I hope this site helps you as much as it has helped me. |
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hzleyez86 Senior Member 
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you both are much better people than i am.. if any of my family members called me fat they would probably be cut out of my life. my mom did make one comment to me though. it wasnt about my weight it was more of a health comment so i had to let it slide. when i told her i joined a gym she said good because she was worried about me being extremely out of breath when we were moving. |
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hzleyez86 Senior Member
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eek i'm so sorry i just realized that this was posted in the teens only section... i am no longer a teen my sincerest apologies! |
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl Distinguished Member
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I'm not a teenager either hzleyez86 I was just very compelled to post about this particular subject. |
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ShannonOfDoom Distinguished Member 
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<----Another non teen, but I thought it would help to have as many sympathetic replies as possible. My mum called me fat on a daily basis when I was a child. If i ate all my dinner, she would call me fatty boom sticks but if i didn't finish it, she would fly off the handle & yell & scream that she was tryin her best. I was always a little fleshy, I just mean not toned, never overweight & then as adult I became obese. I am only now starting to undestand the effects my mums words had on my relationship with food. You should probably have a candid conversation with your mum about the situation, mothers are always critical but this is negative & damaging to your self esteem. Good luck |
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl Distinguished Member
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Shannon brings up such a good point. The things adults say to us as children stick with us. My self-esteem is critically low due to my grandmothers words, and those feelings still follow me. Even though I now know it's ridiculous what she said, and that size isn't everything it still bothers me subconsiously. To anyone who has kids, be careful what you say, remember your kid's really are listening. Kela, I hope you're still out there. Seeking support is the best thing you can do. Until I found this website I didn't know anyone struggled with the same things that I do. |
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danewchange New Member
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my mom doesn't really call me fat but when she looks me up and down, i can tell that she is thinking about my heavy weight. the worst thing was when my stepdad called me fat and said to me "lose weight so he can be proud with his friends". don't get it wrong b/c he actually really loves me tho im his stepdaughter, and he said that when he was drunk. but that still hurt very much. i can remeber that i went home right after he said those words and cried myself to sleep that night. i know being fat doesnt look great but it doesnt mean parents should be less proud when their kids are fat!  |
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sszeto New Member
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hey, im 17 and I just wanted you to know I went through the same thing. I was 5'3 and weighed like 170... my mom called me fat, her coworkers, bla , blah blah. Well, I told myself i would change, so I started chewing gum so much mmy stomach would growl 24/7. I would eat salad and eat nothing but cereal. I worked my way down to 145. When I went to her workplace one day, a co workers of hers told me I used to be fat and now I was growin and I wasnt fat anymore. I dont think the reason I lost weight was because of her, but the reason I lost weight was because of a girl. I was lifting weights and everything too. that was 3 years ago. Now im back to being about 195 and 5'8. My parents are telling EVERYONE that im fat and I need help. i just want them to shutup so bad and I told them that but they said.. just look at you! The more they said I was fat, the more I couldnt stand it and was trying to rebel. When they stopped calling me fat, I could see myself in the mirror and I couldnt stand seeing it anymore. I needed to lose weight and Im a new member too because this is the second time Im trying to lose weight and I want to do it in a healthy way. I hope you don't starve yourself to death like I did my first time. Lets do it right this time.. =] |
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KelaRoseIsBlue New Member
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Thank you guys for all the replys to this thread! I just really wanted to see if there are any other girls in the same boat as I am. ( that face is soo cute)- Kela, who is now ignoring her annoying mom. |
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Jenna281093 New Member 
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Hey, i have only just joined i'm 15 and am on the chunky side  i have always wanted to wear skirts but i hate my thighs cause they are so big  i havn't been called fat by my parents but at my high school if ever i do something someone dosen't like they will just revert to calling me a Fat B*t*h it is kinda upsetting cause i just think everyone thinks the same obviously apart from my mates. So i've started to fight the flab  |
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sweet kisses Senior Member
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KelaRoseIsBlue wrote:
Yay for you, Kela! And yay for all of us for working to get un-fat. |
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JessicaW New Member
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Well i guess i look like my sister and my mom (and dad) always say i look just like her but more chucky, fluffy whatever the word maybe at the time. It does hurt sometimes but i know it, cause i blame it on my boyfriend lol I always seem to "let go " :( |
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soulsurfer12 New Member
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im always pushed were im on a diet to lose weight exspecially becuase i surf so that means no food i love i have alot of people at school call me fat a** and thats not ok and my brother dose too alot of people say its baby fat   |
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MentalKassie New Member 
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I know what you mean. I was once fine with my size but thought to myself, "hey, why don't I shead a few pounds so I can fit into a new outfit my friend gave me (though was a size to small). So, I work my butt off, but after a few months, my mother one night just looks at me and says, "because of your frame you'll never be skinny or slender. Just give it up" and then started rambling on about my cousin (who for some freaky reason we look like twins [FYI i'm the fat one]) It was horrible, and because of it, I started trying major fad diets that ended up causing me to gain back more making me my highest weight ever. No one, male or female should be put down by family about an issue like that. it's because of comments like that, that make us strive to prove them wrong. I hope you make your goal weight, but in a healthy way :) |
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Marsha New Member 
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My mom didn't call me fat (Thank God). Her term was "unhealthy gain" which was not too obvious at that time. She helped me a lot with loosing weight. She enrolled me in a summer program for teens which helped us loose weight and stay focused of the goal and most importantly the program taught us to stay discipline even after the program. (To really prevent us from gaining again.) Last edited on 28 Oct 2011 06:31 pm by |
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ParisK New Member
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My mom has done the same thing, called me overweight, and really tried to monitor my food intake. It can be so frustrating, but I know really she just wants to the best for me and I want it too. But sometimes it can be hard not to snack after a long day at school. The other day when she called me chubby I said to her: Be careful, I ate the last person who commented on my weight! She didn't say anything after that! They have more funny answers at the link below when someone calls you overweight. http://www.ishouldhavesaid.net/2012/02/you-are-so-fat-more-comebacks/ |
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saturdaynightflight New Member
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my mom calls me and my sister fat all the time. I am a little on the chunky side, i am 5'7.5" and weigh 175 lbs. my little sister is 4'8" and weighs 85 lbs. my mom always calls us fat and makes snide comments abut our weights. the only thing is she doesnt know that she hurts our feelings horribly whenever she calls us fat. I try to ignore it but it sticks with you. |
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Anna37 New Member
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My mum doesn't ever directly call me fat or any mean names or anything. But she does that thing where she says to me "Right that's it, we're going on a diet." or "Why don't we go out for a jog?" She always says 'we' and I know my mum thinks she's fat but I think she mostly just does it to spare my feelings. The thing is though I wouldn't be caught dead jogging alongside my mum because despite what she thinks she is really quite thin. |
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princessEliza23 New Member
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No but my whole family is obese sooooo |
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LadyJane New Member
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Yeah, my mum calls me fat all the time. I'm 5"7 and weigh 65.3kg (143pounds) my dad calls me fat and so on. I'd love to be thin, but it looks like I'm just gonna have to settle for slimish. I'm trying to lose weight, and I've lost a bit. There's hope yet! |
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Kia24 New Member
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My mom called me fat also, and at the time I was really hurt by her words. I was ( and still am ) in pretty decent shape, so I was shocked. But looking back at it, I realise her perspective on what "fat" is is way different than mine. You just have to try and not kill yourself over it, because as long as you feel right in your body, that really is all that matters. |
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GoldenAngel New Member
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my whole family calls me fat. My mom jokingly would tell me to calorie count and she would make me go for run to tone up my legs and the "flabs" under my arms. My dad is no differnt he pokes at the skin under my chin and says that its fuller than before. |
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minathekittykat New Member
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My mom keeps telling me that I'm getting there. I know that 'm not the thinnest, but just the fact that she keeps bringing it up is getting on my nerve! I'm a sophomore in highschool and all the stress urges me to eat more. I'm not overweight though! I'm 15, of course my jean size will go up in the course of a year. So starting now, I'm on a diet. I'm going to drop to 102 lbs by a few months. Then, no one can call me fat.  |
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kilvas New Member
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My parents have never called me "fat" directly, but they have used other words. They call me chunky and chubby a lot. They poke my belly too. |
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thatgirl New Member
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I'm 18 and ever since I turned 16 Iv been through a weight cycle but now I'm just keep gaining weight . Since turning 16 there isn't a single day my mom dosent call me FAT. FAT I hear it everyday,she thinks It dosent bother me but it does I NEED to lose weight! I'm done with the name calling |
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mrdthbrns5 New Member
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My mom implys i am, by mostly saying i need more excercise after I've come back from a bike ride the same with my dad and also my mom will tell me i cant have any sugar or salt. And wherever i come back from my friends house she'll ask what i had and she'll shake her head and just make me feel like a monster. But whenever i go on ans say something like " i know im fat, okay" she'll go all sarcastic and say ph yes oh ues of courseee you are. I wish that i could be comfortable place to eat...i know its not good but I'll often have a cup of tea for breakfast and then skip lunch and i have been trying to sleep through dinner. but she just is killing me i feel horrible I'm the oldest girl in my family..i hate her she makes me feel like nothing |
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