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gmk37
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Posted: 15 Jul 2006 12:29 am |
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The fact that I'm even letting myself post something on here is significant in and of itself for me...
Anyway, here's my story in a nutshell: I'm a 21-year-old female, 5'5'', and yesterday I weighed myself at 95.4lbs. I exercise every single day (always some cardio - running, the eliptical - and either some light weights or ab exercises), but I'm not like some others who eat less than 1,000 calories/day...I eat frequently, small meals, all throughout the day...
When I was 19-20 years old, my parents forced me into therapy and nutrition counseling for anorexia, but it was always against my will because they were bribing me with my college tuition money (if I didn't go to appointments, I didn't get to keep going to school). Basically, it ended up just making me distance myself from them because I felt like they weren't listening to me and I still, to this day, do not think that anorexia is my issue. I just decided I wanted to eat healthier, and they apparently didn't take to that. When I turned 21, my parents let the whole thing go, because I wasn't talking to them by that point and their forced program obviously wasn't working.
But I'm scared I'm falling into a trap...the last time I went home, my mother told me that my little brother has purposely distanced himself from me because my loss of weight is freaking him out so much. I've been trying to eat more, but now I'm scared I'm bingeing...with the extra food, I force myself to eat when I'm not hungry AT ALL, but I just keep telling myself I have to put on the weight, but I still exercise a lot...I'm just feeling so out of touch with myself and am afraid of falling into a pattern of eating when I'm not hungry, making bad choices, etc...
I don't even know what I want anyone to say...I'm sorry for rambling...
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IndecentOpinion
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Posted: 15 Jul 2006 06:50 pm |
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Are you sure you're not getting enough calories per day? If anything, you should be maintaining your weight, not losing it.
I understand where you're coming from with the fear of bingeing, though. When I decided that I had to gain at least 10 pounds back after anorexia, I just ate and ate and ate, even when I wasn't hungry. Well, bingeing definitely worked, but I found it hard to get back out of the habit of eating. It has taken me so much discipline just to get back to eating normally. I would advise you not to rush the weight gain. It's great that you're taking steps to be healthier, but don't worry about it if the weight doesn't come back on quickly. You'll end up gaining weight even if you just eat more than you normally do. Figure out how many calories you need to maintain your weight, and eat about 200 or so above that. These extra calories can come from healthy things like fruit or yogurt, so you won't be destroying your healthy lifestyle. I would advise you not to rush or stuff your face 24/7 like I did. It's going to take time to recover, but you'll get there. Good luck!
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Nir
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Posted: 16 Jul 2006 10:40 pm |
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| Dr Fuhrman's advice to those needing to gain weight is to increase their consumption of healthy nuts. If you keep to an existing meal schedule and just consume extra nuts with every meal, think of them as an extra 'medicine' or 'supplement'. It should be relatively painless to increase your daily intake by whatever amount (500, 1000 etc) without changing your basic eating habits. So when you decide you've gained enough to be a healthy weight, you cut out your nuts and voila, you're there. Well that's one approach.
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IndecentOpinion
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Posted: 17 Jul 2006 04:19 am |
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Nir wrote: Dr Fuhrman's advice to those needing to gain weight is to increase their consumption of healthy nuts. If you keep to an existing meal schedule and just consume extra nuts with every meal, think of them as an extra 'medicine' or 'supplement'. It should be relatively painless to increase your daily intake by whatever amount (500, 1000 etc) without changing your basic eating habits. So when you decide you've gained enough to be a healthy weight, you cut out your nuts and voila, you're there. Well that's one approach.
Darn. I wish I would have thought of that. It sounds so simple, too.
Last edited on 17 Jul 2006 04:19 am by IndecentOpinion
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isojosi
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Posted: 30 Aug 2008 03:02 am |
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Hi gmk37,
Oh my gosh, I can't believe how ridiculous people can be. You post a blog reaching out asking for help because you are stressed about how your family is abandoning you and all anyone can do is give you calorie advice. Wow. It's as if they are confirming that you have a problem. Well, you don't.
I'm so sorry about that gmk37. I know it's been like two years since you posted that, so I'm wondering how things are going with you and your family and your concerns relating to your food intake. If you are still feeling out of sorts, then here is my reassurance for you:
There is nothing wrong with you. Nothing. What I see going on here with your parents forcing you to see a therapist in exchange for tuition is none other than their own cover-up for their insecurities about having failed as parents. Please don't think that I'm bashing them. I don't know them, and your opinion about the quality of their parenting is what counts. Instead I am simply identifying the behavioral indications that I see in them. And don't think that you said anything misleading or wrong. What I think is not based on 'what you said', but rather on their behavior.
I also see a huge lack of support from them. If they were supportive, they would pay for your college (since it seems that they have the means and don't mind doing so - my mother was unable to because she didn't have the means, which doesn't determine how supportive she is) without holding something over your head like that. People who are confident in themselves don't make others behave a certain way, period. Again, I say this is a thinly veiled disguise to cover up their own feelings of inadiquacy about themselves.
Additionally, if the therapy sessions you have gone to have not 'worked for you', please don't think that it is somehow your fault. I have done a lot of research on the topic of so called 'therapy' on a broad scale of theraputic topics. I have come to the conclusion that, though well intended, MOST therapists have virtually no ability to assist in the healing process of their patients. I find that what they DO do is make most of their patients feel more and more inadiquate with each passing session because the patient isn't 'getting any better'.
By the way, who decided that you need therapy? Was it you? I believe it was your parents. Additionally, did you say that you felt like you didn't have an eating disorder to begin with? Then why on earth would you go into therapy for that? (That was a rhetorical question, I understand that you did it because of the tuition. I'm just trying to point out that if you think you're fine, then YOU DON'T NEED THERAPY.)
My Dear gmk37, I can see very clearly that the system has failed you. Your family has shunned you because you are comfortable with who you are (exercising and eating how you like). Your 'therapist' has failed you because he/she has refused to declare that you really don't have a problem (or that any issue that you -might- have is related to your family dynamics, not your eating habits), and it doesn't seem like you have the friendship support network that you need. Those who have a good support network don't generally look to anonymous blog postings for resolution.
I have more to say about this and I would like to hear more about your situation, so if you are still wrestling with this stuff and would like to tell me more, please respond to this posting. My heart goes out to you and all who are in a similar situation.
Take care,
isojosi
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