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dieter1
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Posted: 1 May 2006 10:46 pm |
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| I'm new and just came across this site. I'm kind of at an end in my eating. I have always binged and perged on an off for years. I've always had it under control and still do. But I've just sort of stopped eating recently and exercising like crazy and taking diet pills. I never wanted to resort to this knowing how dangerous it can be, and was always afraid of dying from something like this. But recently I've just come to the realization that I don't care and just want to be think. I have willpower to stop this when I want to. and will do so when I get down to where I want to be. Is there anyone who can relate to what I am going through.
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Peter
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Posted: 2 May 2006 12:06 am |
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Tell us a little more.
Are you thin and wanting to be thinner? Anorexic?
Or overweight and wanting to lose the fat? If that's the case, eating so little or nothing at all is the worst, slowest way to lose weight. You're body senses what you're doing and fights very hard to hold on to the remaining fat. It uses your muscle for energy.
I'm glad you know how dangerous eating disorders are as they can be deadly. Whatever the case, I hope you get help.
Let us know more and I'm sure others who can relate to your situation will post.
Thank you for sharing,
Peter
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dieter1
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Posted: 2 May 2006 02:02 am |
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| I'm not heavy but not where I would like to be (5'5" 137 lbs). I would like to be at 115 lbs. I have done the healthy way of losing weight for months now. I ate right exercised and nothing. I tried perging but of course my weight stayed the same. I'm to the point of no where and it's just getting me deeper and deeper into a drepression. I'm at a point in my life that I don't care and will do what it takes to get this weight off. I'm not doing anyone good by always being depressed and in a bad mood because of my weight. I'm afraid of losing my husband because of my weight. My daughter says I'm fat. My ex-husband says I'm getting fat. I was put down all my life and I'm not going to give anyone the satisfaction of putting me down anymore. The way that I look at it is that I will die happy and thin. I'm not happy right now and I'm not going to put myself through anymore tears.
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whitedog
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Posted: 2 May 2006 02:36 am |
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Dieter:
I had anorexia as a teenager back before they'd even heard of it. Fortunately, by the grace of God, I came out of it but I can understand how you feel to a degree.
Anorexia and bulimia are VERY SERIOUS eating disorders and they're discovering that there's a psycholical component to them so PLEASE seek help from someone close to you. Wonderful as forums are, there are so many underlying issues complicating what you're going through that you need to find a therapist to help you work through the issues.
Since I know you don't want to gain weight--who does??--I'll pass on what ANRED.com [anorexia and related eating disorders] says on their site: ALWAYS eat when you're geniunely hungry so you don't slow your metabolism down and/or end up bingeing. I've been applying that to my life since reading it and can honestly say it's helped my weight!!! Even eating before bed if I'm hungry--my pants are loser!!!
Best wishes.
WD
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NevD
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Posted: 2 May 2006 07:02 pm |
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dieter1:
The problem with your proposed course of action is that while it may get you to where you want, it's unlikely to keep you there. That's because a good % of what you'll lose will be muscle, so you'll gain body fat even more readily thereafter.
If you'd like to post more about what you've tried (and failed with) I'm sure we can communally come up with some less drastic measures.
I know how frustrated you must feel with your lack of success, but this really can be done in a less extreme way...
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Krinkala
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Posted: 3 May 2006 06:55 am |
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Hi dieter1,
I've got something to say that's not probably going to be easy to listen to but here goes - losing weight will not necessarily make you happy. And a husband that doesn't love you at 137# won't love you at 115#. (Isn't 115# very thin for 5'5"?) If your husband, ex-husband and daughter all think you are fat then so what! You are so much more than just a body after all. Your worth as a person does not depend on how much you weigh. You should be loved for your personality and your spirit, not just the body. If you are not appreciated by those around you, then just ignore their shallow opinions and start appreciating yourself.
It's good to lose weight if it makes you healthier. But if you do something extreme you will damage your health. Don't set yourself up to be a victim. It's just not worth it. When you lose weight fast, you gain it all back and more, and you are back to square one and you also feel bad about yourself. It's actually faster to lose weight slowly because you don't have all the set-backs. If you eat a healthy diet, cut back on calories and add in some exercise and don't give up, you will get there. Sometimes you have plateaus and can get discouraged, but if you stick it out, plateaus usually don't last more than a few weeks.
So throw away the diet pills. Seriously. You know better. Your health and future are much more important than quick weight loss. You do have a child to take care of, right? No matter how trying life can be, you should plan on being healthy for your future. One thing is certain about the future and that is change. And you don't know what that change will be. Something great could be around the corner. You never know. Sometimes the present can seem a little bleak, but 5 or 10 years from now your life could be completely different and better.
When you don't have people that are supportive around you, you need to reach inside and start supporting yourself. You know, other people can try to put you down, but when you stop caring about their opinion and value your own opinion more, they cannot hurt you anymore. Just try to make positive changes in yourself and in your world a little bit at a time without caring what anybody else thinks of it. However dark the day seems, look for the light and move toward it.
If you really can't get past the depression alone, do you have anyone you can talk to like a true friend or maybe a counselor?
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REDQUEEN
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Posted: 3 May 2006 02:14 pm |
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DIETER1,
FIRST OF ALL, I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE. YOU HAVE FOUND A PLACE WHERE THERE ARE MANY OTHERS THAT UNDERSTAND COMPLETELY WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. I HAVE HAD A GASTRIC BYPASS, AND NOW, I TOO, SUFFER FROM AN EATING DISORDER. I HAVE BECOME BULIMIC. I FIGHT THIS EVERY SINGLE DAY. MY BULIMIA WAS TOTALLY OUT OF CONTROL, SOME DAYS I WOULD ACTUALLY LOSE COUNT OF THE TIMES THAT I TREW UP. I WOULD GET SCARED AND THEN I WOULD DECIDE NOT TO EAT FOR A WHILE. BUT THEN, BECAUSE OF EMOTIONAL REASONS OR STRESS I WOULD BE RIGHT BACK TO BINGING AND THROWING UP. . . IT IS A NEVER ENDING CIRCLE.
HOWEVER, I HAVE DECIDED TO MAKE SOME CHANGES. ALTHOUGH I AM FAR FROM "CURED" HAVE MADE GREAT STRIDES. I HAVE DECIDED TO SEEK COUNSELING AND I AM GOING TO SEE A NEW DOCTOR TOMORROW. I THINK THAT ALL OF THE HEAVING HAS DAMAGED MY ABDOMINAL WALL AMONG OTHER THINGS. I AM AFRAID THAT I HAVE A HERNIA NOW. HOPEFULLY, I WILL FIND OUT TOMORROW THAT THE DAMAGE IS REPAIRABLE.
I CAN REALLY IDENTIFY WITH YOU. I, TOO, THOUGHT I WOULD BE HAPPIER IF ONLY I WEIGHED A CERTAIN AMOUNT. WHEN I REACHED THAT POINT, I THOUGHT I WOULD BE HAPPIER IF I HAD A TUMMY TUCK. WHEN I DID THAT, I THOUGHT I WOULD BE HAPPIER IF I HAD A DIFFERENT JOB, WHEN I DID THAT, I THOUGHT I WOULD BE HAPPIER. . . IT GOES ON AND ON. BUT ONE THING THAT I CAN TELL YOU FOR SURE IS THAT DIET PILLS ARE NOT THE ANSWER. THAT IS ONE THING THAT SCARES ME MOST OF ALL. KRINKALA IS RIGHT IN THE ADVICE THAT SHE GAVE YOU.
I AM SAD  THAT YOU FEEL THAT IN ORDER TO EARN THE LOVE OF YOUR HUSBAND, OR THE APPROVAL OF YOUR DAUGHTER YOU MUST BE THIN. HONESTLY, THAT IS NOT TRUE. I KNOW THAT SOMETIMES I, PERSONALLY, GET THE WRONG IDEAS IN MY HEAD. THEN, I MUST REALLY DO SOME SERIOUS, LOGICAL THINKING TO STRAIGHTEN MYSELF OUT. YOU KNOW, I STRUGGLE WITH THE SAME FEELINGS OF NOT BEING "ENOUGH". I FEEL I HAVE NEVER BEEN NICE ENOUGH. . . FAST ENOUGH. . . THIN ENOUGH. . .SMART ENOUGH. . .GOOD ENOUGH. . . (JUST FILL IN ANY ADJECTIVE ENOUGH). BUT ONE THING THAT I HAVE LEARNED SINCE I THINK THAT I HAVE GIVEN MYSELF A HERNIA IS: THE THINGS THAT I HAVE ALWAYS SOUGHT AFTER, I ALREADY HAVE. I WOULD BET THAT YOU HAVE THEM TOO.
THERE ARE MANY THINGS THAT I THINK YOU CAN LEARN FROM THIS SITE. I KNOW THAT I AM THANKFUL THAT I RAN ACROSS IT. I LOOK FORWARD TO HEARING FROM YOU. PLEASE KEEP ME POSTED, AND KNOW THAT YOU ARE ESPECIALLY IN MY PRAYERS.
REDQUEEN
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dieting27
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Posted: 29 Jan 2008 07:38 pm |
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| I know exactly how you feel! I just had a baby a year ago and still have the 60 pounds i put on, and everybody keeps telling me ohh you look healthy now, and my husband also comment on the way I look, he said he likes the oldme...and so do I...I found myself also slipping into the pattern of only eating fruits and veggies.. and its frustrating. I'm sorry i don't have any real advice for you I just think our cases are simiar,and i also want help on losing weight the healthy way...
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