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katie252
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Posted: 11 Apr 2006 11:05 pm |
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| If you're like me, seeing this topic would immediately catch your attention. In fact, I'd probably have my car keys in hand ready to go grab whatever was suggested at the grocery store. However, what I really meant to discuss is how I plan on using this website as a mean to end my binging ways. Whenever I find myself at home, bored, with a cabinet full of food, I plan on going on this forum instead of reaching for the bag of chips. This website is so motivating, and makes me excited to make changes in my life. It's only my first day as a member and I'm already full of optimism! It's the greatest feeling knowing that there's so many people going through the same struggles, and that complete strangers are willing to provide such support. Thanks!:D
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Peter
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Posted: 12 Apr 2006 05:12 am |
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Cool, you can binge on my website anytime!
Peter
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Your plan reminds me of when I was an active member of OA and members would call their sponsors during tough times.
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Hiba
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Posted: 14 Apr 2006 04:04 am |
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| My plan as well :D And so far it's worked.
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LattesMom
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Posted: 14 Apr 2006 05:14 pm |
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This morning I would like to eat everything I can get my hands on and I decided to come in here and write instead. Had a lot of frustration the last few days--work deadlines, car repair, bad service at the rental car agency, my walking partner signing up for class on the night we walk and talk, etc., and frustration, change, and problems always drive me to food. Oh, and did I mention the birthday lunch with my blissfully happy mom and her fiance? And this while I am going through longing to be in a relationship again (my husband and I split up 3 years ago in May--jeez do you think the anniversary of the split could be causing me to want to eat too????!!!!!!!!).
What can I say--jello, water, spinach, airpopped popcorn and all that just doesn't feel like it will fill the hole. But I'm sure if I will just be honest in my writing here that it will help to relieve some of the pressure! And what is really great is that I can do this during the work day because that is when I am most likely to overeat.
Does anyone have advice for what they've done when they really feel like binging?
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Peter
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Posted: 15 Apr 2006 06:02 am |
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I was never good at stopping myself once I got the feeling. At one time I kept granola bars in my car for just such emergencies. But when the time came, I wouldn't eat a granola bar... I'd go get junk food.
The answer for me was to address what makes me want to binge in the first place. I spent many years in OA and learned a lot and got a lot of help. I guess a forum is the next best thing to meeting with people.
Peter
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Hiba
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Posted: 16 Apr 2006 11:03 pm |
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I had that feeling this morning, I really wanted to eat everything I could get my hands on and in my house we keep a lot (A LOT lol) of junk food. But somehow, some miracle, I ate a little bit of cereal and decided it didn't taste that good and then reached for a diet coke, a banana and some yogurt.
So I don't know what advice I can give as to how to help the cravings because as you can see, I'm still trying to deal with them. But just think of how much you are hurting yourself when you do binge.
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Peter
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Posted: 17 Apr 2006 01:51 am |
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Keeping in mind that we often binge to suppress emotions, this is a great little saying:
"Nothing in life is so bad that eating over it can't make things just a little worse."
Peter
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LattesMom
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Posted: 17 Apr 2006 06:13 pm |
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Oh, too true that binging just makes it worse! AND that it is hard to not binge once you have the idea. I kinda believe in that concept of "miracle" because I am very happy that I got through the weekend with minimal binging ( a couple of handfuls of M&M's) and without stopping to buy the whole pizza that I thought would make me feel better. I cried it out and sort of feel like an emotional wreck after my first week of not eating whatever I want to eat. But I did feel better this morning when I got on the scale and I'm actually ahead of target on my weight loss--2 lbs instead of 1 lb.
I too was in OA for years and learned a lot. My brother lost 100 lbs and has kept it off for years by going to OA and talking to his sponsor everyday. I seemed to have a trust issue with sponsors--meaning in my small town there were only a handful of people and they didn't seem to be the kind of role models I wanted and I had a hard time trusting that baring my soul to them would really do any good. Sounds kind of pompous when I'm writing it but that was the truth.
Thank you, thank you for this forum! I think it really helped me!
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yoga girl
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Posted: 28 Apr 2006 04:42 pm |
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can anyone give me an idea of what an OA meeting is like?
ive always been interested in the idea, just that there isnt a group where i live... not to mention the fact that none of my friends or family know i have this issue. in their minds im "miss nutrition and fitness"
thanks!
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LattesMom
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Posted: 28 Apr 2006 05:14 pm |
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Dear YG,
When I was going there were online OA groups for those who lived too far from a meeting so you might check that out, too.
The format of the most recent meeting I went to with my brother was to start with a reading from the OA literature then to open up the meeting for sharing. If you wanted to share you could raise your hand and the meeting leader would call on you and most people said "I'm (Name) and I'm a compulsive eater (binger, etc.)" and then you could share on the topic in the reading or on whatever was on your mind. No one will talk while you are talking and the idea is not to comment or give advice on what you said even when they are sharing. After the sharing a basket was passed and you could give money if you wanted to support the cost of renting the meeting room, etc. and then everyone stood and held hands and recited the Lord's Prayer. After the meeting was over people hang around and talk one to one. Sometimes they go out to a restaurant or coffee if people want to socialize more.
What I found was that it was a safe place to say what I was really feeling. There is a real attempt on everyone's part to accept you just the way you are. Where I live there are special groups for bulimics, etc. There are so called "closed" meetings where only people who are willing to identify themselves as "compulsive eaters/bingers/etc." are attending--this type of meeting is good for those who want to talk only in front of people who have the same issues.
Hope this helps you on your journey!
Lattes Mom
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Skipperdox
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Posted: 28 Apr 2006 07:45 pm |
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When I binge, it is usually because I try to stave off a craving for what I really want. For example- I want Fritos, but try to eat something healthy instead. So I'll start with baked tortilla chips with some fat free salsa, then I'll progress to eating the bag of chips. I'll grab a spoonful of peanut butter, then two slices of toast with butter, then a few slices of American cheese, etc...
What I should have done was counted out a serving of Fritos, sealed the bag and savored my fritos. Usually once I do this, I regretted eating even the fritos, but it was better than hoovering everything in the cupboard.
I've started buying anything like this in single-serving packages. That way I can give in a little, but don't have to spend two weeks undoing the damage to my diet. I'm trying to make the diet a lifestyle change. I know from failed diets that I need to find liveable ways to avoid sabotaging my plans. Snack food companies are all jumping on the single serving bandwagon. They are trying to look like they want to combat obesity.
I've been on weight watchers for two months and I find I'm not really intereted in fritos. The last time I ate them, my body's reaction made me regret it more than my conscience. Plus they contain major trans fats. One serving has 9 grams of fat. Just look at the grease on your hands afterwards.
BTW...Fritos were my favorite junky snack item.
I hope this helps.
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LattesMom
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Posted: 28 Apr 2006 08:59 pm |
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Way to go, Skipperdox   !
I have had that same experience with regular root beer. I just HAD to have my rootbeer daily--usually at lunch. I have cut it out and substituted unsweetened iced tea for most of the last three weeks. The other day I had enough calorie savings through other methods that I allowed myself a rootbeer for lunch. SHOCKEROO--I did not like it!!
By the way I have been kinda binging on candy in the office the last three days and today I woke up with a commitment not to do that and to get back on track. I thought about the steps I needed to do and along with putting the candy dish in another office where I can't see it, I made a plan to call a couple of people if I felt tempted. After lunch I was starting to think about it because in the past that is how I always capped off my lunch (with something sweet). So I called my brother and made a commitment to him that I would NOT eat the candy. That is really helping.
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Peter
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Posted: 30 Apr 2006 04:16 am |
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LattesMom's description of an OA meeting was very good. A great group of people and a very warm and comfortable, safe place to be.
Peter
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LattesMom
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Posted: 1 May 2006 06:23 pm |
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| Calling someone and committing to them that I would not binge on candy really worked for me! Had a great weekend--did not binge and got back on track! I also signed up for diet buddies in another area of this forum so will use that to help support my efforts as well.
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