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JSABD
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Posted: 14 Dec 2011 02:38 am |
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You may be reading this because you are the responsible spouse who puts his or her health and marriage and family ahead of food but too often one spouse puts food and the pleasure derived form eating before his or her family, health and marriage.
What are your thoughts?
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frequency
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Posted: 4 Apr 2012 05:48 pm |
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If I am blunt, I have to say:
I have never gone to any friend's wedding (they know I am ashamed to be seen). I couldn't go to my mother's funeral (afraid of the people judging me. I have spend my families money on phsycologies to deal with depression. And the more I was being help there, the more weight I have gain. The more protected I became, the worst I got.
It seemed that I was given an excuse to be like this. "i was depressed". The more society accepted people like me, the more comfortable I became. And my family had to accept I was never going to work, be self-sufficient, and I have put them in horrible stressed.
For some reason I arrived here a couple of days, and maybe it's my own time to wake up, but the shift was IMEDIATE to understand that in fact it was my "EGO-SELFISH SELF" that is to blame, and not all the other people I have blamed for.
society have it wrong, being to nice to me, accepting this habit has only made me more impassive to "PAMPER ME" (Typical word) anytime i desire without taken responsibility of my actions.
I had a drug problem like 20 years ago, after 3 years of drugs, went into a clinic of addictions, they where to blunt, harsh on me, that after stepping out, I understood the damage and ramifications of my acts.
With overweight has been different, the focus has been on health. but since you are depress you are NOT moved by those things. But if the focus would be on the PAIN you produce to others, then I guess I would of waken up earlier..
just my own personal thoughts.
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JSABD
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Posted: 5 Apr 2012 01:27 pm |
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frequency wrote: If I am blunt, I have to say:
I have never gone to any friend's wedding (they know I am ashamed to be seen). I couldn't go to my mother's funeral (afraid of the people judging me. I have spend my families money on phsycologies to deal with depression. And the more I was being help there, the more weight I have gain. The more protected I became, the worst I got.
It seemed that I was given an excuse to be like this. "i was depressed". The more society accepted people like me, the more comfortable I became. And my family had to accept I was never going to work, be self-sufficient, and I have put them in horrible stressed.
For some reason I arrived here a couple of days, and maybe it's my own time to wake up, but the shift was IMEDIATE to understand that in fact it was my "EGO-SELFISH SELF" that is to blame, and not all the other people I have blamed for.
society have it wrong, being to nice to me, accepting this habit has only made me more impassive to "PAMPER ME" (Typical word) anytime i desire without taken responsibility of my actions.
I had a drug problem like 20 years ago, after 3 years of drugs, went into a clinic of addictions, they where to blunt, harsh on me, that after stepping out, I understood the damage and ramifications of my acts.
With overweight has been different, the focus has been on health. but since you are depress you are NOT moved by those things. But if the focus would be on the PAIN you produce to others, then I guess I would of waken up earlier..
just my own personal thoughts.
The only person who needs to accept you is you.
If you find the health consequences, societal consequences and the behaviors associated with glutton acceptable then accept them. The fact that they were causing you distress shows that they were unacceptable to you.
The wackos in the fat acceptance movement accept themselves least of all and that is why they lie, whine and deny reality. That is what cults do.
Obesity hurts the people around you. They see you eating yourself into sickness and death. They too will make excuses for you such as saying you have self-esteem issues or you are depressed. True depression is rare and self-esteem is a myth.
You fear of people judging you is an expression of ego and it is also irrational.
Try doing this. Go up to all the people who matter to you and admit that you are a glutton and then tell them that those days are over. DO NOT go on a crash diet!!!!
Do not declare war on your fat.
DO... Eat 6 healthy meals a day that total your BMR. Get .5 grams or more of protein per pound of body weight. Get lots of fiber and eat only healthy fats that come from nuts, fish, plant oils like olive oil, canola oil ect... Take a multi vitamin and mineral pill.
Last edited on 5 Apr 2012 01:34 pm by JSABD
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