| Introducing myself as more than a 'pretty face' despite the pudge |
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fluffybridesmaid
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Posted: 21 Sep 2010 03:42 pm |
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Anyone else ever been told "you have such a pretty face?" I was told that most of my childhood....followed by a "but it's wasted because of the size of your body" My mission is to find my inner beauty and not let the size of my body determine my worth. Having said that however, I would like to get to a healthy weight and size...
My story is this: 2 years ago, I was a size 10. I didn't really think I was thin, but I didn't think I was super fat or anything either. I still thought I was overweight though. Then, I met this great guy... and I started gaining weight as I fell more and more in love. I quit my job, and moved in with him and his 2 kids with my 2 kids, and we're now married and just your typical Brady Bunch. Oh yeah, plus this: I gained roughly 80 LBS. Looking back, I can say this...I was thin enough at a size 10! I kick myself! Now, I have a Wedding I get to be in. I am very excited and honored to be in the wedding...and it gives me something to work towards (not looking like the fat girl in the photos)
It's not that easy though "just lose the weight". I have so many demons....I want to lose the weight in a healthy way. Smart way. I want to still like myself with the weight I carry.
So here I am ... looking for moral support. Thanks for taking time to read my blah blah blah.
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Seraph
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Posted: 26 Sep 2010 01:23 pm |
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Hi Bridesmaid
I so understand your wanting to not be the fat girl in the wedding photos - I've been a bridesmaid 3 times (I know, I know) and have always felt awful. I refuse to go through it again. What are your goals and time scales?
Best of luck!
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Seraph
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Posted: 26 Sep 2010 01:24 pm |
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By the way... I'm forever being told "you have such a beautiful face". Although it's supposed to be a complement, it hurts. Instead of saying "you're beautiful" people feel the need to specify! 
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fluffybridesmaid
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Posted: 27 Sep 2010 05:21 pm |
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So let's see...Right now, my weight is 215 LBS. The Wedding is end of July. Ideally, I'd like to be at goal weight/size by June. I'm looking to get down to 140 LBS. Part of me is angry that I didn't lose the weight for my own Wedding but here is my consolation prize for that. August is also my 1yr Wedding Anniversary, so in the back of my head, I guess I have that thought "if I couldn't be thin at my Wedding, I can be at my Anniversary"....
Less than a year, but I feel that I can do it!! Right? How about you? Do you have any particular goals? I know this sounds funny, but I used to get sad when someone told me I was pretty...even when I was thin. I link pretty to weight now. Always.
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notsohotmama
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Posted: 7 Oct 2010 10:55 pm |
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First of all I think you are a beautiful person (for me) because you made me laugh.
I just love people who are funny and I don't care what they look like. I am with you though about losing weight to feel better for yourself physically and mentally. People DO descriminate against over weight people and it's not right. I grew up in a home with a photographer (my Dad) who mostly did photo shoots with super skinny models. He rejected my mother who was over weight. Had affairs and finally left her. I hate that people judge like they do so let's decide to do this for health and so we are happy with us and to heck with everyone who judges us. I wish you all the support in the world my friend. You deserve to be happy.
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