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zara ray
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Posted: 10 Sep 2013 09:42 am |
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Does low self esteem effect your social life? Making meeting people, making friends, keeping friends, and overall hanging out always suffers at the expense of my low self esteem and confidence. It always seems to hurt my budding social life whenever possible. I wish there was a way to make it go away but it's a personal battle that I am going to have to change myself with positive repetition until it sticks on it's own.
Recently I went away for college, meet a lot of nice girls who actually want to be my friend and be around me but my depression and low self esteem ruins it all. For the first time in about 7 years I am making friends but my depression and self esteem is ruining all f that ironically. I always thought it would g away the minute I find people who care about me but it is getting worse.
It's like all of this darkness is coming out of me and it's becoming this huge battle to fight my depression away. It feels like another person inside of you trying to pull you deeper into depression. It's also bad because from this group of girls that I hang out with I have a huge crush on one of them and it's horrible...
So anyways to wrap up my thesis of a post,
Does low self esteem effect anyone else social life or friendships?Last edited on 10 Sep 2013 09:47 am by zara ray
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Nir
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Posted: 10 Sep 2013 12:33 pm |
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personally I would say "yes without a doubt".
In my case I would say that my Overeaters Anonymous meetings (and also a self-help book about self-esteem) have done more to help me in that regard than simply losing the 40lb+ weight.
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zara ray
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Posted: 10 Sep 2013 06:52 pm |
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Thanks for the reply! I agree. Sometime just losing weight doesn't seem to cut it all of the way. I need to invest more into support groups and positive affirmations regarding self esteem and my feelings. I need to check out a OA meeting.
Right now things are starting to get a bit better after a bad bout of depression for the past two weeks ive been in school. I have been spending more personal time to myself and trying to become more positive with my thinking of myself, while trying to stick to eating better.
I'm getting better doing this personal alone time thing but at the same time I feel like I am missing out when it comes to social events and spending time with the new friends I have made. I don't want to miss to much of the initial formative times that people spend together when starting friendships, and university friendships are the ones that last a lifetime by what people say. I feel conflicted at the moment, but still need to work on my confidence.
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Diet Coach
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Posted: 28 Oct 2013 02:10 am |
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Low Self Esteem is a strange term. Maybe try replacing it with self image and understand that self image and body image are two different things.
If everyone would demolish their egos then they would not care what people think of them. Anyone who would think less of you probably is not worth your time.
In the case of obesity your obesity is an indication of your behavior in many cases since chronic over eating is a choice. Some people see it as a moral failing. I could be but if it is it is a moral failing with a lot on enabling.
If one is fat one would be wise to take a thorough moral inventory and ask one's self if their not ceasing chronic overeating is a matter of can't or a matter or won't.
List all the reasons for why you "can't" eat in a proper and reasonable manner and then you will have your answer and the enlightenment to dig deeply enough into yourself to get the answers you need and then decide if your food lust is still worth it. The payoff gourmandizing gives is potent. Are there other things that are more important to you like your family and your health?
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