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b fatnomore
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Posted: 27 Jan 2008 03:23 pm |
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Hi from b fatnomore.
Well that's the plan. I'm hoping this anonymous format helps, because the support of my friends while useful isn't always.
a) They are not always consistent - like when we go to the movies and share popcorn, and they order it with extra butter while I get the tickets. Or no matter how I argue I don't want any leftovers at Christmas they insist, and I end up throwing it out once I leave - otherwise I'll eat it all. When they come to my house I honor that request when they make it. We've had some loud discussions about this and I have said I won't join the holiday meals if I have to go thru this, I might join the party before or after. As for the popcorn - I'll buy my own.
b) They aren't always constructive- sometimes it seems some people think that to help you they have to be nasty. - Those people I've dropped after taking a hard look at whether I was being defensive and they were helping or if it was just an excuse on their part. I feel that if my freinds are helping me take an honest look at myself great, but if it's making me hypercritical, or second guessing myself then it's a no go.
c) A couple feel like they have a right to ask me about anything anywhere. they actually fit in the catagory above, but I guess it bothers me so much I feel put on the spot that I gave it a seperate section.
So this time around, while people know I'm working to improve myself in a variety of areas, to a great extent I'm going it alone. Which I hate. I like to share things, but without feeling judged or having to weigh (no pun intended) my words. I have some supportive good friends, but I'm a little gun shy this time around.
So here's to a new and improve me!
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clarinetgurl
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Posted: 27 Jan 2008 05:35 pm |
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Hey,
Welcome to our friendly little community! Have fun exploring the site...there are a lot of great forums, especially diet buddies, my diary, and the challenges
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Sorry about all your unsupportive friends :( Good for you for standing your ground!!
CG
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b fatnomore
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Posted: 28 Jan 2008 08:53 pm |
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Thanks :>)! I figure maybe they'll learn something from me as well. I don't think they realize the impact they have.
It was good just to vent where noone will share with any one I know.
I'm looking forward to this new chapter!
Decided to try the ticker. Lets see if it works!
Last edited on 28 Jan 2008 09:43 pm by b fatnomore
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clarinetgurl
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Posted: 29 Jan 2008 06:46 pm |
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Yay, you did it. Cute!
I know what you mean about your friends, I think most of us have had the same problem at some point...I think they always mean well, in some twisted way, but making fun of my little baggies of celery, cucumber, carrots, and my slice of sourdough bread was never very helpful...
CG
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