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cportwine
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Posted: 22 Jan 2009 07:52 am |
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I would be proud if I was you. Not to many people would of quit at one piece and ate their salad.
So, good job for doing that. I would of said screw it and ate two or three pieces.
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Fitb450
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Posted: 22 Jan 2009 11:39 am |
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I did this whole explaining where you might bemissing some things and lost it .Ok I will try again.
1- you can eat alllllllllll the fruit you want in the morning along w/ either 1 oz nut or some tahini mixed in your fruit bowl  . You do not need to be limited. 2-Then at lunch don't forget your beans iether on your salad or on the side with stemed greens or other veggies..
3-eat a piece of fruit after if you want something sweet.
4- supper can have a starchie veggie like COOKED carrots ( they do not count as starch if they are raw, just a free veggie).,or potatoe (small to med one),or a cup of rice with stir fried ( only steamed) veggies on top w/ some bragss aminos and pineapple mxed in. But don't forget to eat your salad first!
So you see there is alot of food alowed you just have to keep out thhe oils (1st 6 weeks) and limit your starch to one a day.
I hope this helps !
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MidgeH
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Posted: 22 Jan 2009 12:27 pm |
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Thanks for the info 50. I actually can't eat all the fruit I want, I'm diabetic. But I can probably eat more than I do (although I have been eating a lot in the morning).
I'm just not doing well with the adjustment phase. It will get better, but I'm not sure this is how I want to live. I'll continue for a little while more with adopting some of the principles and see how it goes. At the very worse I'm not doing anything that shold cause me to gain.
I've had my fruit today, getting hungry now. don't want salad. Sigh.
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cportwine
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Posted: 22 Jan 2009 01:14 pm |
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I wouldn't get to upset if you don't follow the plan to the tee. If it gives you even one good habit or something. Then it was well worth your time of doing it.
You could even come up with something on your own that's based on the same principles, just not as strict. I am pretty positive that I will not be able to even do one correct day of etl. But, I want to get idea, for foods and recipes, and even the nutritional knowledge out of his book. So, I think I will enjoy the book quite allot.
I am hoping that it will help me be more disciplined and more knowledgeable about the foods I am eating.
So, I guess what I am saying is that you shouldn't feel bad if you can't stick to it.
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Fitb450
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Posted: 22 Jan 2009 01:27 pm |
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| oh yeah, for sure, don't be discouraged if you aren't 100% doing ETL. It gives good principles aboutraw foods and veggies in general. Just do what you can. And I can't wait until the end of the week or begining of next when yo post your weight again!
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cportwine
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Posted: 22 Jan 2009 01:44 pm |
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| Wish I could get my book so I can partake in this a little more. I feel like I am talking about stuff that I know nothing about....lol
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MidgeH
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Posted: 22 Jan 2009 01:55 pm |
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I've been loving your paticipation, Cindy! Can't wait until you get your book too. No reason I should be suffering alone... 
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Fitb450
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Posted: 22 Jan 2009 05:39 pm |
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You are hilarios!
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mj36
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Posted: 22 Jan 2009 06:08 pm |
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| How is all that fruit impacting your blood sugars? I don;t eat fruit typically unless I have a protein or high fiber carb with it. In fact, it is usually fruit and cheese or fruit and cottage cheese, because it converts too quickly and spikes my glucose levels, then they drop and I get a headache and am hungry. Just some thoughts. The all fruit thing might not be working w/ your diabetes, or maybe the nuts with it would help things.
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MidgeH
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Posted: 22 Jan 2009 10:54 pm |
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Can't tell you, I don't check blood sugars. My diabetes is mild and self induced.
Anyway, had my salad at lunch, smaller then usual, but good. But I had a snacking afternoon. Not bad snacks - a tablespoon of peanut butter, an organic fruit leather, a few chips and salsa. before dinner my cals were at 1000 (wow, exact!) right now they are at 1530. Too many cals today, but healthy ones.
Dinner was flounder florentine (fresh flounder, stuffed with cooked spinach and a little low fat cheese - think 1/2 a string cheese - , salt, pepper, then baked. ) parmesan green beans (fresh green beans tossed in this awesome 0 fat italian dressing we have here in StL. It's from a local restaurant, then tossed with a little parmesan cheese and baked. Again, measure the cheese and you are fine.) and mixed roasted veggies (asparagus, red pepper, mushrooms and zuchinni tossed in a smidge of olive oil)
I should have stopped at 1 serving - 265 cals - but I had 2.
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Posted: 23 Jan 2009 12:47 am |
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Ha, mine is moderate and self-induced. Actually, initially it was pregnancy induced, and then I ignored my health for quite a while, took pills for it... then got my act together and lost the weight, went to diet controlled... then gained the weight (and a few years on my age) back and got the pills back too. Hopefully you can control yours without pills, because it really changes things!
Dinner sounds yum, and low cal even with seconds!
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MidgeH
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Posted: 26 Jan 2009 04:48 pm |
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So just a brief check in. Just livin my life. Few dayon on ETL, few days off. Down a few lbs, could have been more. I just don't care. Oh, no I won't do anything nuts and I want to keep the weigh off, but right now I just want to pretend I am a person without food issues. I am so sick of even thinking about it.
Be back after a short interlude...
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cportwine
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Posted: 26 Jan 2009 05:27 pm |
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Hey Midge, how on earth did you get through the first pages of ETL? My god, it's boring me to tears. lol I will muddle through it, but man, I just want to get to the good stuff.
Totally understand about just living and not worrying about food and diet. It does tend to takes it's toll sometimes. Nice to have a breathier once in awhile.
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Posted: 26 Jan 2009 06:23 pm |
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| Midge, hang in there. Sometimes it helps to take a break from all the focus on weight to live life a little. It can be so overwhelming to have it on the brain all the time! And you are still down a few lbs, so there is success in that method too!
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mollymoo24
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Posted: 31 Jan 2009 01:17 pm |
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MidgeH wrote: So just a brief check in. Just livin my life. Few dayon on ETL, few days off. Down a few lbs, could have been more. I just don't care. Oh, no I won't do anything nuts and I want to keep the weigh off, but right now I just want to pretend I am a person without food issues. I am so sick of even thinking about it.
Be back after a short interlude...
I just got caught up and see that you are taking a break. Good for you to recognize that you need to do this. Take care doll.
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Posted: 1 Feb 2009 11:42 am |
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| Still keeping you in my thoughts and hope everything is going well in your world~
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MidgeH
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Posted: 1 Feb 2009 03:35 pm |
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Hi guys. I'm back. WAY up. But I;m not weighing. Well, i'm going to weigh on Feb 28 and see where I am.
So, starting over. I need this. I needed the break, I needed to realize how AWFUL I feel when I am not eating right. No more.
Be back with more later. Missed you guys!
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cportwine
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Posted: 1 Feb 2009 04:23 pm |
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| Hey, glad you are back! Can't wait to hear what you have been up to. Gee, I've missed ya...
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Posted: 1 Feb 2009 06:19 pm |
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| OK, so the eating healthy and moving forward will begin! I actually felt the same way when I got back into my dieting kick. I had been slacking off and eating lots of prepackaged stuff, sweets (and I am a diabetic...), breads. Within a week or two I definitely felt like I had more energy! I wish I had your willpower to avoid the scale for a month. I make myself nuts checking in on it and measure all my progress by the numbers.
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl
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Posted: 1 Feb 2009 06:50 pm |
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I've missed you Midge, how's life?
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MidgeH
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Posted: 2 Feb 2009 03:07 pm |
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Ok, thought I was back yesterday, but the day go away from me, so now I am really back!
I think I'm up about 15 lbs (from a low of 194) but that's really irrelevant. What is relevant is how terrible I feel and that I can SEE those extra lbs. It's weird, isn't it, how as they were falling off I couldn't see the lbs, now every extra one is staring me in the face, taunting me. Oh, and really putting a strain on my waist bands! I'm still in a 14, but only barely. I really need to go up to 16s, but i'll just suffer. Ha.
So how did I get here? Well, It's actually been a long time coming. For all intents and purposes I did not lose any weight between Halloween and now. Thanksgiving and my trip to my relatives ramped things up, but I really went into free fall about a week before Christmas. So what happened? I'll tell you what happened - DATING happened. It's not obvious, but I think I may be sabotaging myself so utterly.
Yes, I have a BF now but I think there is a part of me who is trying to get him to leave me. Already. It's part protection and part assumption that I don't deserve happiness.
Of course, my brain knows I deserve some joy in my life and most of the time my soul know it too, but right now i am allowing the past to dictate my future. I am allowing food to control my life. I am a 5 year old abuse survivor in a 38 year old body who is eating to on one hand comfort, on the other hand make me so undesirable that no one ever comes near me.
It's just a stange feeling. right now I'm actually in a pretty good mood - I've had a lot of sugar HA  - but I know I'm actually doing things that will cause me more heartache and pain then eating healthy will.
So what to do? Well, I've already said I am not going to weight until 2/28. MJ it's SUPER difficult for me - even though I threw out my scale - as I used to weight myself 12+ times a day. But that is the problem. I am not a number, I am me. So instead I;m going to go by how I feel.
Let me put this in list for so I can read it more easily.
- Do not weigh myself until 2/28
- need belt on size 14s. Ok if not below a 14, but I need to be comfortable in the clothes I have. Lord knows I don't want to have to buy new ones!
- although I do not want to put a number, I'll be OK if I am at 195 by 2/28. That basically wipes out the downslide and puts me back where I was before I fell apart
- For the next 4 days eat fruit for breakfast and a lean cuisine for lunch and that is it. I won't do this for long, but I need a few super low cal days (this is about 600 cals total) and to simply not have to worry about food for a while. Then I will re evaluate the food plan
- Remember that I have 3 potentially superhigh cal days this month. Valentines (I actually have a date for the first time ever and I want a freakin' heart shaped box of chocolates. Isn't that cheesy?  Plus we're going out for an expensive meal.) Mardi Gras - StL has a big Mardi Gras thing, 2nd biggest in the country. I hate it but the BF is pushing it. and Finally the Oscars. I have a party every year. None of these pose a problem if I am back to my old self. It's about change, remember, not suffering.
- finally I need to work on not letting my whole identity be my size. I am sick of feeling like a "somebody" because of people comments and tired of feeling like a "nothing" because of the way my family treats it. I need to let the BF just love me. He says he does and maybe that's real. I need to look for other things to do with myself and my rather powerful brain. I need to stop being a pushover, because "maybe they'll like me inspite of my size". It all just needs to stop.
So. Let's just get through the next few days with being low cal, maybe i'll even exercise once, (but don't hold your breath) then I will reevaluate. Pretty sure I will be going back to simply strict calorie counting, lots of veggies and lean proteins, but we shall see.
All I know is that if I get thorugh this time now I am setting myself up for a great spring. I can't wait.
Last edited on 2 Feb 2009 03:10 pm by MidgeH
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cportwine
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Posted: 2 Feb 2009 05:27 pm |
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Glad your back Midge! It's hard to get back on track when your not down and out on yourself. Being happy and eating seem to go hand in hand.
I guess you could say I am on a little break right now. Not really yet, but sort of. I am not going to be dieting the rest of this month. Trying to do the smoking thing. But, after today I feel like I still need to keep some good eating habits in place.
I agree that it's hard to see those pound go away, but so obvious when they are there. I bet you'll be back to your old self in no time. I hope the same holds out for me when this is all said and done with.
Ok, well have a good day...
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Posted: 2 Feb 2009 11:05 pm |
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It's weird, isn't it, how as they were falling off I couldn't see the lbs, now every extra one is staring me in the face, taunting me.
Midge, I totally identified with this line, felt like I could have written it myself! Just focus on your goals, and the long term changes you want to make, not the bumps in the long journey! You can definitely do this by regaining your focus and setting small, achievable goals!
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MidgeH
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Posted: 3 Feb 2009 11:57 am |
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Back to the beginning or moving on to a new place?
Things just aren?óÔé¼Ôäót the same for me as they were 9.5 months ago. On April 21, 2008 I woke up, a switch flipped and I became a tiger about eating right. For 7 months food simply was not an issue. The only problem I had was not eating enough. I was going to be a normal size, I was going to have a normal life. I was going to be treated like a normal person by everyone for the first time in my miserable life.
It took some time, but the compliments started rolling in. Then I hit the web and the dates started rolling in along with, for the first time in my life, lots of perfectly nice men who wanted to sleep with me.
Then the problems started. The hunger (mostly mental), the rationalizing (it?óÔé¼Ôäós just one serving, at least butter doesn?óÔé¼Ôäót have transfat, I don?óÔé¼Ôäót want floppy boobs anyway, etc etc.)
Then finally the dam broke. I?óÔé¼Ôäóve been eating like I did on April 20th.
So how do I move forward, how do I get the life I want?
Ah-ha, the life I want. Perhaps a telling statement. I know how to eat to lose weight. Fruit, veggies, lean protein. All the Eat to Live or Oprah diets or whatever are all well and good but everything comes down to the same 5 principles for me. Fruit. Veggies. Fish. Whole Foods. Portion control. That?óÔé¼Ôäós it, not rocket science.
So maybe I need to look beyond Midge?óÔé¼Ôäós 5 (the ?óÔé¼?ôwhat?óÔé¼?Ø) and into Midge?óÔé¼Ôäós head (the ?óÔé¼?ôwhy?óÔé¼?Ø) to get to Midge?óÔé¼Ôäós ideal life plan (the ?óÔé¼?ôhow?óÔé¼?Ø)
Why am I behaving the way I do and how do I change it? What in my life needs to be given the heave-ho so tht I can become the person I want to be? How much of a role does my size play in that and is that really appropriate? (Short answer- NO! It?óÔé¼Ôäós everything and it shouldn?óÔé¼Ôäót be.)
This is a diet forum and it still is mostly about the diet, but that sole focus is not working for me. So I?óÔé¼Ôäóm going to start exploring the other sides of this journey, the ones that go beyond what I put in my mouth.
Just call me Mollymoo jr.
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cportwine
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Posted: 3 Feb 2009 12:28 pm |
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Yea, for sole searching! I guess we all will be doing some of that... 
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Posted: 3 Feb 2009 07:49 pm |
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| Midge, I mean Jr., love it! I think you are onto something about the many facets that go into becoming an overweight person... it is about feelings and thoughts and ideas AND food... self-concept, self-esteem, etc. I think until each of us is willing to look at not only what goes in our mouths but what goes on in our heads, we are doomed to repeat our mistakes again. So, if that's what it takes, it's what we will have to do. Being thin doesn't make anything better... I can attest to that since I already reached goal weight once. Figuring out why you gained the weight in the first place though, that might help with the making it better part!
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cportwine
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Posted: 4 Feb 2009 12:00 am |
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Oh, I totally agree with you on that MJ. The reasons we eat and make ourselves the way we are. Are the very reasons that we are so messed up. So, not only does it fix the eating problems. It fixes allot of other things also. So, getting to the bottom of it and fixing it, is really what it is all about.
lol, I just read that again, and I am wondering did that even make sense.
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MidgeH
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Posted: 4 Feb 2009 01:18 pm |
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So far so good today. I had fruit for lunch, then 2 Akmak crackers for snack. Just to quiet down my stomach cuz people at work could hear it! Now just to get through lunch.
God, this was so easy for me for a while. I didn?óÔé¼Ôäót want to eat every processed thing I could lay my hands on in fact it kinda grossed me out, I counted calories like a fiend and loved it. But now I?óÔé¼Ôäóm feeling the way you would have thought I would at the beginning. Resentful of the weight and having to eat like I do, resentful of not having a healthy relationship with food, mad at myself for being lazy and giving into whatever feeling are causing me to do this.
I want those feelings back. Not the ones that made me get paranoid if I ate over 1100 cals, but those feeling of accomplishment and pride for losing weight like I did. I miss that.
So when did it change? Why did my commitment change?
What will make me happy? (because I recognize that right now I am not.)
Sigh. A lot to think about today!
ETA: I had a big salad for lunch. The good - big mix of veggies and field greens 95 cals. The not necessary but Ok - 1 tbs raisins, 2 oz chicken, 150 cals. The completely unnecessary and bad - bacos, chow mein noodles, fat free vinegrette, and club crackers (!) 280 cals. Total for salad 525 cals !!!! Lord it was a yummy salad though   .
I am at 771 cals for the day with the intention of staying there. Finally need to get that low calorie day I've been promising myself...
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mollymoo24
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Posted: 4 Feb 2009 02:32 pm |
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Wow Midge, considering I've been off the wagon more than on it the past couple of weeks, I really related to your post. In the end, the weight loss/eating/fitness is inextricably linked to everything else going on in your life and how you view and feel about yourself.
I am here for you, believe in you, and support you 110%. You are a special wonderful person and I feel very fortunate to have been going through our personal journeys at the same time.
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cportwine
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Posted: 4 Feb 2009 02:55 pm |
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| Keep it going Midge, I'll be pushing for you...
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MidgeH
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Posted: 4 Feb 2009 05:11 pm |
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Although I am trying to address issues other then just the numbers I do need to re-embrace some of the behviours that got me this far.
Like playing with tickers.
So this is the amount I want to lose by 4/21/08, my 1 year mark. Only 2.5 months but it DEFINATELY can be done...
It wont' be updated until 02/28. but look at how far I've come. 9.5 months ago I posted a ticker with triple digits to lose.
And here is my minutes exercising goal for rest of February. I'll hopefully be updating this one a lot.
i;m still thinking about the other stuff. Hope to have a break through soon.
In related news I had to have a snack so I had a little thing of tuna and a whole wheat craker. 120 cals. Yea me. 920 for the day. I am done.
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Posted: 4 Feb 2009 10:28 pm |
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| I LOVE the exercise ticker! When I get back to running (when the sun gets back to shining) I am going to make a ticker that measures my miles toward goal. Loving it! You know, I was so happy with the little bits of progress at first, I was really focused too. Then I started to crave bigger payoffs for my efforts, and as time went by, I began to get frustrated with how loooong it was taking. Maybe those factors play into your frustrations too, and why you are having those feelings now, rather than at the start. Just at thought.
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MidgeH
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Posted: 5 Feb 2009 11:33 am |
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Breakfast today was fruit (grapes) and a fiber plus bar so 320 cals in. Last night I did eat more at home, but I feel less bloated today so that must be OK. Today should be better, I?óÔé¼Ôäóm planning on increasing my raw veggies (and eliminating the chow mein noodles and the crackers) at lunch and then I have an actual dinner planned so the evening will be better.
Terror, pain , and self injury
So I?óÔé¼Ôäóve been thinking about why I behave the way I do, specifically why do I eat I know I shouldn?óÔé¼Ôäót (fat, processed foods, sugar) when I really like the things I should eat (veggies, fruit, fish). It doesn?óÔé¼Ôäót have anything to do with being picky or not liking something ?óÔé¼ÔÇ£ I like everything ?óÔé¼ÔÇ£ but for some reason my brain keeps triggering the rest of me to crave - no, NEED ?óÔé¼ÔÇ£ the bad stuff.
So what do I know? I know I am scared. Terrified even. It?óÔé¼Ôäós not a new feeling, I feel like I?óÔé¼Ôäóve been frightened my whole life. Scared of people, mostly. Which of course affects everything. I mean how can you perform well in school if you are afraid of people laughing at you, or get a really great job if all you can think about is what the interviewer is thinking about you, or fall in love if you just think the person is setting you up as a sick joke?
I feel like my brain is broken into 3 sections. Part one is animal, pure instinct that has been warped by past events and other people?óÔé¼Ôäós issues to the point that the emotions it sends out into the other 2 sections cannot be trusted. It?óÔé¼Ôäós in a constant state of fear wanting to run away from anything that might require my relying on or trusting people or even trusting myself.
Part two of my brain doesn?óÔé¼Ôäót realize that part 1 is full of #%@&!. So that part of my brain is the one that says ?óÔé¼?ôOK, you are just going to eventually emotionally/physically/spiritually going to hurt me, I will make you go away before that happens by hurting myself first.?óÔé¼?Ø
So I eat. And eat. And eat. I make myself into the monster I believe you perceive me as so that I deserve whatever happens. That balm like feeling I get after eating lots and lots of bad foods has nothing to do with having tastebuds satisfied, it?óÔé¼Ôäós that I have returned back to my default setting ?óÔé¼ÔÇ£ you can?óÔé¼Ôäót destroy me, I already have.
Part 3 of my brain is the one who know that part 1 of full of #%@&! and part 2 is a complete idiot. It?óÔé¼Ôäós the part that got me this far, the reason I can keep friends, the reason I have a job and pay my bills. It is seriously outnumbered.
So what do I do to pump up Part 3? To give that part of me the muscle, stamina, emotional fortitude needed to easily wrestle the other parts into submission and maybe even get them to stop lying to me about the world around me.
More thoughts as they come?óÔé¼?ª
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cportwine
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Posted: 5 Feb 2009 12:15 pm |
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| Positive self talks 24/7 and allot of praying. It's been working for me, maybe it will for you to.
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MidgeH
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Posted: 5 Feb 2009 03:23 pm |
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Salad today was 426 cals. I overestimated breakfast, it was only 270 cals so 696 total so far. 15g of fiber already though so that's good. More veggies planned for dinner so I expect to hit about 25g which is excellent. The salad was huge with more lettuce and mushrooms, no chow mein noodles or crackers. It'll be interesting to see how long it holds me. I finished @ 12:30 so as long as I get to 4pm I should be fine (I can tough it out until dinner at that point)
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Posted: 5 Feb 2009 10:58 pm |
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| Midge, it is awesome to see you start to analyze the why's that go into your feelings and contribute to your eating. I agree that lots of positive self-talk is a great tool. Just being aware of the way the negative elements can impact you is great because then you can respond to those parts of the brain that are dragging you down~
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MidgeH
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Posted: 8 Feb 2009 03:00 pm |
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Well, things are going ok I guess. I haven't been very good about counting calories this weekend. The weekends are turning out to be a problem for me now. So many new things to get used to.
Monday - thursday are a lot easier. I follow the ETL rules pretty much during the week, but tht isn't any different from how I used to eat.
We'll see how the week goes...
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Posted: 8 Feb 2009 05:16 pm |
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| Midge, I have the same problem! During the work week I do so well, then on Friday night and Saturday I am so sloppy about choices, it gets out of control... then I spend Sunday feeling bad about it and getting ready for the week ahead. Nobody ever said weight loss was easy, and I guess this is our part of the struggle. Hopefully we can get through it, slowly but surely!
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl
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Posted: 8 Feb 2009 08:59 pm |
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| The weekends are hard, especially if you're going out or doing something fun. I try to visit cph a lot during the weekend, it keeps me motivated. I also try to spend time with friends who are also trying to lose weight (not the kind that sabotage you, the good kind who want you to succeed.) So that way we're kind of looking out for eachother.
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Posted: 8 Feb 2009 09:10 pm |
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| Thin makes a great point about hanging out with friends who want to support you. Some people will subtly sabotage your efforts because they want you to stay "fat" for whatever reason- because they don't want to be the fattest friend themselves, because they are afraid you will change in other ways, etc. Pick some super-supportive people and plan things with them that do not revolve around food.
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MidgeH
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Posted: 9 Feb 2009 10:07 am |
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Until the BF I had no problems with weekends. In fact the problem was that I would sometimes only eat 400 or 500 calories a day on the weekends. The problem now is wanting to be a regular person f/s/s but not really being a regular person.
I would love to jettison everyone who wants me to stay fat, but in actuallity that's only 2 people and since they are my sister and my mother what's one to do? (And they would deny it like crazy...)
I still need to fix some things about me and the way I treat food. Goodness, so many things going on in my head right now. I;ll try and straighten them out and come back here to post.
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Posted: 9 Feb 2009 05:37 pm |
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hiya midge,
hope you're doing ok, cause you sound down. just wanted to post, cause i was wanting to ask whether you have a guy called paul mckenna over there? he's a hypnotist, and he's written this book called "i can make you thin" (i know, i know, a bold statement). anyway, i was at apoint where i was either dieting and binge eating, and i thought "more than being thin, i actually want to be normal around food." it gives really good advice and comes with a cd, and i am finding it really useful. it's about positive visualisation, and also learning to recognise true hunger signals and respond by eating when you're hungry and stopping when you're full. also, you are allowed to eat what you want. my experience of this has been a freer feeling around food. i don't feel the need to stuff my face with all the chocolate i can find, because i know i'm not going to deprive myself later. it makes me feel like a normal person - not fixated on food.
i'm sorry to leave such a long post, and i'm sorry if this sounds like a commercial - i'm not saying this is a perfect system, just that it's helping me with compulsive overeating.
much love, desperategirl xxLast edited on 9 Feb 2009 05:38 pm by desperategirl
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mj36
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Posted: 9 Feb 2009 05:37 pm |
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| Getting all these food issues straightened out is a process, not an event... keep that in mind and don't beat yourself up when it doesn't happen quickly enough!
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cportwine
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Posted: 14 Feb 2009 03:07 pm |
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| Midge, I just stopped in to see how you are.... ???? How is the dieting going? How is the bf doing? Come back and fill me in.... It's boring around here without you...
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mollymoo24
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Posted: 18 Feb 2009 10:07 pm |
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Hey babe, where are you?
I've been lost in my own little universe again, finally sticking my head up an peeking around to catch up and I miss our Midge. How are you doing. It's hard getting back on the wagon sometimes. I don't know what the magic 'switch' is to help get that motivation back.
Maybe you just got to a point where you were comfortable with where you are at, with your body and your new boyfriend and that comfortable feeling is not at all what you are used to. What I am trying to say is, maybe your comfort zone is a state of being critical of yourself, and the self sabotaging comes because part of you wants to cling to the "familiar" past.
I hope this makes some kind of sense, whether or not you agree that the point applies in your case.
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Scoobees
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Posted: 2 Mar 2009 05:59 pm |
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Hope you're doing ok Midge. This place certainly isn't the same without you!!!
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cportwine
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Posted: 2 Mar 2009 07:33 pm |
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Yea, I miss her too..... 
Hey Midge if you reading this~ I am coming up on my one month mark, for quitting the nasty cigs. Thanks! I could of never done it without all the people like you that gave me advise and support. So, THANKS AGAIN! lol ~ everytime I put one of those suckers in my mouth I think about you.
Anyway, hope everything is going well for you also....
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zenobia
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Posted: 9 Mar 2009 05:20 am |
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ok girly, it's been a whole month! how are you? and where are you?
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MidgeH
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Posted: 19 Mar 2009 10:18 am |
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Hi everybody. <wave>
Now that I'm here I'm not sure where to begin. 222.5 lbs. Yep. Does anyone know exactly how much pressure a pants button can take before becoming an airborne projectile? I swear that all of my pants are about to go nuclear and take out someone's eye.
So let's just get back to business shall we? I am only concentrating on getting below, well, no, actually I'm only focusing on going down. Really couldn't care less about the number. I FEEL TERRIBLE.
I will be back later to post more and catch up on everyone's diary.
I've missed everyone but I wasn't in a headspace to be a productive member of this community. Honestly I'm still not, but I am in TROUBLE. I mean it may as well be March 2008 not 2009 given the way I am behaving.
Again, more later.
Cindy - WOO HOO! long time no cig! Awesome! 
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl
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Posted: 19 Mar 2009 06:37 pm |
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Midge we've really missed you, it's not the same without you here!
Im sorry you feel terrible!
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