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peterinwa
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Posted: 12 May 2005 05:51 pm |
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Often when a person is being careful about what they eat those around them are not. This can make for a difficult situation.
Have you ever been with someone that was drinking a lot more alcohol than you and kept egging you on to drink more yourself? They were being selfish. They wanted you to drink more because they felt uncomfortable indulging so much more than you. The same thing happens with food.
We need to respect the choices others make, and to surround ourselves with people who respect our choices. What we eat not only affects our appearance, but is a matter of life and death. Being overweight may not kill us tomorrow, but it will certainly affect how long we live and how much we enjoy life.
I'm not suggesting that we dump our friends and family. I am suggesting that we ask for their support and understanding. But if we find that they are not willing to support us, we need to consider whether they are truly our friends and just how much time we should be spending with them.
As an active volunteer for Red Cross Disaster Services, I am often reminded that we must look after ourselves first. If we don't, we can be of little help to others.
Peter
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flyawayana
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Posted: 24 May 2005 11:07 pm |
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Thats sure the truth.. ive lost all of my freinds but one - because i wouldnt do the drinking, or drugs, or sex scene like they did. i lost other freinds because they didnt like that i excersized so much (i train for century and double century bike tours.) and ive lost 3 more freinds after they set me up to look like i was in a hit and run accident when they were at fault. i have one freind now. this world sucks. oh well.
so yeah, guys and gals - pick your freinds wisely and when they $*$#*#$ you over bad.... just leave then while your still ahead. before you pay THEIR price.
well those are my "wise" words for today. haha
fly
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Krystin
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Posted: 19 Oct 2005 03:36 am |
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I have been blessed with the greatest man alive. Not because he is perfect, but because he is open to discussion about everything. There aren't any off limit subjects. Although I don't find it particularly satisfying to talk about my health goals (outside of this site) I do it anyway. I've found that the best way to get my man's support is to ask him for it.
I think it'd be great if people would post their successes and lack there of regarding personal relationships and health goals.
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Corina
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Posted: 19 Oct 2005 02:06 pm |
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My husband supports me losing weight. And he would like to see me get in shape, but he reassures me and tells me that he loves me just the way I am.
Sometimes he can help my weight loss and sometimes he poses challenges. He's SUCH a big pizza eater and he always wants to get pizza, but I can't have or else I'll get fat. I do allow myself 2-3 slices once in a great while. But, it's those times where he says "you never want to get pizza anymore," or "you're being mean because you're exercising and not spending time with me," that causes strain on my success on losing weight. I try to come up with quick come back lines like "you don't want me to look like my mom do you?" or "I'm not being mean, your being mean because you don't want me to exercise." Being able to come up with quick lines like those helps him to see my perspective. He doesn't do those little things to try to sabatoge my weight loss goals, I just think that he doesn't realize what he's doing. I have to constantly remind him that if I want to lose weight I have to eat healthy and exercise.
Relationships do tend to make it difficult to lose weight but if you can learn the right ways to handle those situations you WILL be successful!
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saxy
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Posted: 19 Oct 2005 04:35 pm |
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Having my wonderful boyfriend's support is basically what keeps me from going insane. We just moved in together last month, and I'm finding that it has become easier to watch what I eat, and to fit in the daily exercise. We work together, same hours, but he's usually there an hour or so later--so most times when I get home, I run to the club and work out while he's still at work. By the time I get home to make dinner, he's home. This works out well. :)
And even though he could stand to PUT ON some pounds, he doesn't keep junk in the house to tempt me. And he LOVES the healthy meals that I make up. The weekends are tough, with the bigger breakfasts that he likes, but I'm utilizing the "small plate" theory and I can eat practically anything he likes, but in mini-portions. So neither of us is being restricted. :)
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Akashawolfe1
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Posted: 25 Oct 2005 08:24 pm |
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I found the SMALL PLATE trick works real well for me too...tricks my mind to think I'm eating more...that and taking my time to eat helps BIG TIME...
My live in boyfriend is very helpful and is trying to lose a few pounds himself...he has sleep apnea and it's necesary for his health.
Although I went out with my boss for lunch for my BD...she was literally "PUSHING" desert on me...JUST BECAUSE it was my BD..I HAD to eat something SWEET? She would have gotten in a perfect snit if I hadn't had a bite of it....I dont' get it...why do people DO that when they KNOW you're watching the calories? It's unkind...and not unlike forcing an alcoholic to drink at a party...not cool. 
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Peter
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Posted: 25 Oct 2005 09:10 pm |
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I saw a silly but fun movie last night, Man in the House:
sonypictures.com/movies/manofthehouse
Tommy Lee Jones orders a pizza and when he sits down at the dinner table to eat it all the cheer leaders gag at the thought because they're all on Atkins or The Zone or Weight Watchers or... some other diet.
Later in the movie he makes a date with one of their teachers and just before he walks away he looks back and asks, "You aren't doing The Zone or points (WW) or anything are you?"
After living with the always-dieting cheer leaders he thought to be sure the dinner he was going to make was compatible with his date's eating habits. It was cute and reminded me of this forum topic.
Peter
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serberus
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Posted: 31 Oct 2005 04:04 pm |
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| It's funny how in the beginning the family was right there to cheer me on. Go mom go or hunny I know you don't want to work out but think of how great you'll feel if you do. Now it's, your going to the gym again. Mom stop loosing weight your boobs are getting saggy. I think my all time favorite is when the kids or my husband are eating ice cream or burgers and say things like, "oh this is the best. It's soooo juicy. You know you want some. Too bad you can't cuz your missing out big time". My usual reply to them is I can, I choose not to. If you want to choose to eat unhealthy thats your choice not mine. I try not to let them know it bugs me too much. I do say something now and then but for the most part I feel like this is my thing.
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Peter
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Posted: 31 Oct 2005 04:29 pm |
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My mom recently told me the gym wasn't important.
Parents!
Peter
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Akashawolfe1
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Posted: 31 Oct 2005 04:48 pm |
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It's a drag for my college age daughter...My man and I are both trying real hard to lose weight and get healthier...and she comments all the time about all the "diet #%@&!" we have around the house. How she can't cook cause she doesn't know how to make any of this "weird food". It's a bit of a drag that she's like that...and then she'll eat like a PIG in front of us and then go..."oh well, you're on a diet...you can't have any I guess". She's "burdened" by the fact that 2 out of 3 in our house have to watch their waistlines....we're a DRAG..yet she's "supportive" in her own mind.
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serberus
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Posted: 31 Oct 2005 07:20 pm |
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| Funny how kids are. My 12 yr old swears she is being supportive too. She has the same complaints about the food in the house. My husband on the other hand can eat whatever he wants and never gains a pound. Me I look at a piece of chocolate cake and gain 20. When I go shopping, I buy them their snacks and I have my snacks. Your more than welcome to have some of my snacks, but make sure you leave some for me. At least now the 12 yr old is starting to ask, is that healthy for you or not. When I say no she says oh well. YUMMY. lol. Little dork.
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Ente
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Posted: 17 Nov 2005 12:40 pm |
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My husband diets together with me, which is great. Oddly enough though I am occasionally guilty of encouraging him to eat. I want him to lose weight but I don't think a relatively busy and healthy 30yr old (183cm, 200 lbs) should restrict himself to 1200 calories a day..sounds a bit low. On the other hand, it's his way to diet and I should support him, not dictate his menu, I guess.
Sometimes I do it purely because I overstepped my own limits and don't want to suffer alone. Now that's simply unfair towards him and I'm working hard on cutting it. Dieting together is a sort of competition ;)
Overall we're getting on well with it though and are gradually losing weight.
Since I'm not without guilt myself, co-workers or my grandma trying to add to my calories don't bother me much. "No thanks", repeatedly!, usually works. I know why they do it, but this is all about me and my looks, and reaching my goal, so I take a politely wrapped "Lead, follow or get the heck out of my way" attitude towards their food advice. ;) I don't really try to change their attitude... rather ignore their temptations.
Last edited on 17 Nov 2005 12:45 pm by Ente
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mia
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Posted: 4 Apr 2006 07:04 pm |
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ok so this is what. i dont live at home anymore, but when i go home on weekends to hang with my sisters, i get a lecture about how fat i am. for real. ok, so i'm 5'5 and 77 kilos. i know i need to lose wieght, but this : oh my gosh, you look huge! are you sure you want to eat with us? you havnt really lost any weight stuff has to go. soooo i decided to boycot my family (my own family, yes) and hang out with supportive friends. maybe they'll come around.
mimster
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Krystin
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Posted: 5 Apr 2006 11:51 am |
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| Surrounding yourself with people who support you is one of the best things you can do for yourself!
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MNTWHITTEN
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Posted: 6 Apr 2006 01:18 pm |
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Mia- that's too bad that your family can't be supportive of you. How sad for them to not understand. But you are right in surrounding yourself with people that will support you.
As for my Hubby. He really is great. He's been so sweet to just sit there and basically watch me Taebo (he'll play pool). And He'll say little things like your face looks good, your butt looks good, you have a muscle there or there. And he loves it that I'm a little more confident in myself than before. He really hated how down I get on myself. That's his biggest complaint about me. It really even started affecting our relationship because of it.
Sometime though, I notice he catches himself about ready to complain about me excercising or what I want to eat. He'll stop himself and say okay well we'll eat after your workout or before.
I love my Hubby 
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mia
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Posted: 6 Apr 2006 04:29 pm |
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| awesome!!!!you are one lucky lady!
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