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Amybcb
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Posted: 10 Nov 2006 09:01 pm |
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well I can say to all of you that I'm definitely sinking backwards in my eating. I've been looking at old photos (of a thinner me) and restricting my calories. I'm also taking diet pills again (my hubby does know about that and approved it). The problem is although he is trying to be supportive he sometimes is insensitive and says things that are NOT helping... they are actually making me want to eat less and less to lose the baby weight!
For instance, yesterday I said to him "I think my scale here is off because the one at work, the gym, my moms and my friends house are all the same and 7 lbs heavier than mine". His reply? "Really, then you weighed XX lbs - you better get your eating under control!" Now mind you, I am overweight right now and I do want to lose but hearing your husband talk down to you like that hurts. And it ticked me off too - I stiffly replied "it is under control - so drop it. I've lost 2.5 lbs this week already!" I mean more than that is bad but he's making me want to lose more faster so I can rub it in his face... it makes me think "I'll show him!" This is very detrimental thinking... I'm afraid I'm getting worse in regards to my eating (less and less, working out more to have a bigger deficit) but at the same time, I like feeling in control of it again, of resisting the hunger pains (I know it sounds sick - it is) and losing weight. I tell myself I can stop once I hit my pre-pregnancy weight (which was a healthy weight) but then I wonder - can I really stop whenever I want???
thanks for letting me vent.
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Amybcb
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Posted: 12 Nov 2006 03:27 pm |
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doing better...  thankfully I know what is right vs what is wrong with eating... and I've been doing some serious introspection on my restrictions. I was getting cranky and dizzy so I knew I was not eating enough. I'm now trying to eat closer to the 1600 a day it says on here that I should eat to lose weight and I feel a heck of a lot better (mentally and physically)!
Oh my gosh, I just love this little face 
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Dani
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Posted: 22 Nov 2006 03:38 pm |
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Hi Amybcb. I've read a few of your posts in this section... and you really seem like you are struggling right now between doing what you know is right in terms of losing weight... and doing wht you know works quickly. But it is so so unhealthy to restrict yourself too low. You know darn well that once you start eating again after losing the weight... that you will start to put weight back on again.. which in turn will spiral you lower into your restriction. Hopefully I'm not sounding like a know it all... I'm just concerned for you and your daughters. I have a daughter as well... she is ten now.... and let me tell you... those daughters pick up on EVERYTHING that their mothers do.
I'm sorry that your husband made some uncalled for comments about your weight. Please just try to block them out instead of letting them fuel your restriction. In the long run it will only hurt you. I know for me... comments from people (bad comments) have been my ammunition .... but in the long run all the starving I did just lead to me going waaay up in weight waaay quickly once i started eating again.
You sound as if you really know the right way to do this.... eating healthily and some nice enjoyable exercise a couple times a week. I lost my weight ... it took almost two years to lose ... but I'm glad for once in my life I did it the proper way... cuz I can feel proud of myself instead of scared sad and lonely .
I really hope that you can see the role model that you are for your two daughters... and show them how a happy confident woman carries herself.
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1seekspie
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Posted: 19 Aug 2007 05:26 am |
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That was uncalled for! I hate it when people do that, whether they intend to hurt you or not it's important everyone realizes that weight is a sensitive issue and even the most "innocent sounding" thing can be like taking a hammer to a heart. I know that on occasions my parents will inadvertently say things to me like, "Jeeze! You really woofed down your steak, or, "What happened to all of that chocolate, hmm?" My parents are being innocent enough in their comments, but sometimes those words stick with me and make me think twice about eating a regular meal. Those words will continue to haunt me until I get down to the point where instead my parents exchange concerned glances and instead ask me, "Did you get enough to eat, you didn't eat much!" You can't let yourself think like that. Yes I know I'm younger than you and obviously don't have a husband but like Dani said, don't let these words fuel Anorexia...just let them go in one ear and out the other! I repeat:
In one ear and out the other, nothing more to it.
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