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Marcy-Me
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Posted: 20 Jul 2005 12:54 pm |
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This is what happens to me....I'll have a late lunch and then when I get home from work, my husband wants to have dinner. Well, I am still full from lunch, but we'll put together dinner and then I'll eat when I'm really not hungry. In fact, that is my theme. I am able to eat when I'm truly not hungry.
Another thing that I do is head to the 'fridge when I walk in the door after work. I'll graze for awhile and then, an hour later, my spousal unit comes home and we prepare and eat dinner. Guess what, I'm not really hungry because I'd been eating since I've been home!!
I have quite the talent of being able to eat when I am not hungry!! Lately, I've made some progress changing this behavior. I found a good weight loss, hypnosis CD that helps reinforce the changes that I'm trying to make.
There you have it!
PS: I'm new to this forum and this is my first post. I have a feeling I'm going to get alot out of these message boards.
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nee
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Posted: 20 Jul 2005 03:14 pm |
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| I don't have a spousal unit to plan around, and my son and I have always had a short-order house so he's easy to work with, but I find that if I have a sweet drink like a diet Snapple or a piece of fruit and some crackers when I first get home from work, I can wait on dinner until 7 or 8 p.m. and not feel like snacking again between dinner and bed.
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beachbaby
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Posted: 21 Jul 2005 05:38 pm |
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| I love that, "spousal unit"! My problem is I eat when I'm bored, even though I'm not really hungry. Knowing that, I've been trying to find other things to do, but I've also tried to find "good" things to eat when that happens. It is soooo hard to break old habits, I hope we can all help each other find ways to do that.
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JosieDog33
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Posted: 22 Jul 2005 02:08 am |
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| I'm also a bored-overeater. I eat when i'm bored and not really hungry. I love food, especially sweet things. My mom makes big meals and then feels bad if i don't eat much, so i feel guilty if i don't eat much. She knows i'm trying to lose weight but doesn't seem to get the fact that cutting back at dinnertime is not an insult to her. oh well. grrr.... i just want to be thin!
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beachbaby
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Posted: 22 Jul 2005 02:59 pm |
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| I can relate to that. I have a "spousal unit"(stole that title) that brings home ice cream or bakes brownies when he knows I'm trying to be good. It's very frustrating, I sometimes wonder if he's trying to sabotage my efforts.
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Peter
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Posted: 22 Jul 2005 03:04 pm |
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On the topic of the last couple of replies, I trust you all read the last newsletter, Beware the Food Pushers:
http://thelegacywebsite.com/news_050720.html
Peter
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Chocoholic
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Posted: 1 Aug 2005 04:48 pm |
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| I'm a bored-overeater too... and a sad-overeater, a happy-overeater, an angry-overeater, a worried-overeater, a frustrated-overeater, etc. etc. etc.! I try to do other things, but I'm also a very all-or-nothing sort of person, so once I give in and take one bite I give up.
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junebug
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Posted: 1 Aug 2005 05:48 pm |
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Chocoholic
I love your name, it describes me to a T! Here is what I do, I DO NOT keep junk in the house, so whenever I am bored, etc, all there is to munch on is healthy stuff. The worst thing I keep around is popcorn, not much damage to be done by that. I do make/bake things once in a while, but for the most part it is banana bread or something similiar, which helps to satisfy my sweet tooth. I find if there is nothing around to tempt me, I am far too lazy to go out and shop for it, so the disaster is averted. (Also, I do all of the shopping, because if I take Mr Skinny to the grocery with me, I notice when we get to the check out, brownies, candy and the like have mysteriously appeared in the cart?? :? Last time I checked, these items do not have legs of their own, so it must be Mr Skinny up to his old pranks!!) It sounds like you have identified your overeating triggers, now it is time to devise a plan to overcome these triggers. I know now not to surf recipes late at night, even if I just ate dinner, I find that everything sounds good, and I want to eat. So, instead, if I am bored and want to surf the web, I just think of something non-food oriented to research. I call a friend I haven't talked to in a while, or make a list of things I need to do, anything so I won't think about that triple layer chocolate cake I would sooooo love to make!! 
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Full of Hope!
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Posted: 19 Nov 2005 12:58 am |
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:(I have been overweight for 15 years, I have since realized that when I feel like I am not getting the satisfaction I truley need from my husband, I eat. What I mean is, I need to feel like I am wanted but I dont believe I deserve to be wanted by him because of the way I look, so I eat to fill the void. To try to satisfy something. To prove to myself that I am fat and ungly with no right to be wanting my needs met. Its as if I am giving myself excuse after excuse to just eat. This has nothing to do with my husband, he has never made me feel fat, I put this on him but I cant seem to get past this. Any suggestions?
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fantasia31
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Posted: 19 Nov 2005 04:08 am |
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Like many of us, you seem to have self esteem issues. I know how that can be.
As for the husband, try talking to him about your feelings. I am sure he will support you in your efforts, and who knows... maybe if you talk to him about the issues of not feeling desired, he will make a more concerted effort to meet your needs. In my experience (being on the other side of the same issue), there is often an explanation for this behavior that has nothing to do with you. In my case, it's old demons that crop up now and then. History may have a lot to do with his behavior. If you point it out it might force him to act. Counseling for both of you may help as well.
As for the self esteem, we ALL deserve to be loved. Focus on the great qualities you have that make you loveable. Also, for me, I feel loads better when I make a decision to do the right thing. It aids my self esteem just knowing that I am doing something about my weight.
By the way welcome! I suggest you take a look at the Diary section. It really helps to have an outlet for those day to day issues. Good luck in meeting your goals! :D You can do it!
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NevD
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Posted: 19 Nov 2005 01:24 pm |
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Having an unsympathetic spouse (or other home-sharer[s]) must be very difficult, but shouldn't be used as an excuse for eating what you don't want...
Honestly, I believe it IS possible to sort things out.
For starters, talk to the other person(s), explain what you're trying to do and ask whether he/she/they are going to help or hinder. At least that way you won't need to wonder whether there's sabotage afoot.
Then, PLAN your own meals, and whatever other folks' routines are, stick to your plan. It's not having a definite plan to follow that gives the 'excuse' that you had to keep someone company or whatever.
If someone else is having a meal, it's always possible to have a protein drink (for instance) to keep him/her company at a meal. Or even a cup of tea/coffee and a snack - it doesn't have to be a full meal!
If you plan to eat 5 times a day (as you probably should), then you'll know when you should eat (every 3.5 hours). If it's not your time, you don't eat.
Sounds a bit cut-and-dried I know, but the alternative is the 'oh I ate 'cause someone else did' sort of excuse.
Mmmm... the tone of this post isn't what I intended. I suppose I'll finish by asking others whether making excuses does the trick? It doesn't change things, does it?
Having a planned schedule of eating is the first step to gaining control over your food intake - and your body fat.
My two cents' worth...
NevD 
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