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Roxann
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Posted: 20 Jul 2006 12:26 am |
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My daughter has a eating disorder. At first she would throw everything up that she took in her system. She got so depressed because of her weight that she tried to comment suicide by taken a bunch of pills. Our Community hospital sent her to a mental hospital. While she was there they monitored her food that wasn't eatin on her plate.I found out that was how they monitored there eating habits. In the meantime my daughter was giving her food away. I let the hospital know and told them not to question her abt. it because she won't fess up and that I want them to catch her first hand.They wouldn't allow her to go to the restroom for 90 minutes after she ate,(Which she really wasn't eating anyway),unsupervized. The doctors wanted to put her on zoloft and I refused. Once she got home from the hospital,I noticed she needed something so I finally authorized it. Since shes been home from the hospital she tried cutting herself and still don't eat. She will drink juices and the reasoning behind that is so she can poop it out. I finally got her into counseling and now it's just a waiting game.Regardless what anybody says to her she still beleives shes fat and ugly.She claims she'll start eating again once shes 75-80 pounds. Does anybody have any suggestions to get her to eat and to bring her selfesteem up?
Roxann
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Peter
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Posted: 20 Jul 2006 12:42 am |
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Hi Roxann,
I'm sorry for what you and your daughter are going through. Hopefully you will get some helpful replies.
But since this is so serious, please don't in any way rely on this forum for advice. Your daughter needs professional help.
I'm sure you understand this. I'm just being cautious.
Best wishes,
Peter
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Roxann
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Posted: 20 Jul 2006 02:18 am |
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Thank-you for your reply. I'm still kind of having a hard time trusting in medical personnals,although I work in that field,due to the fact that my daughter was fighting this for quite some time and the doctors kind of ignored it other than ordering blood tests. It was to the point that her eyes was really sunk in and her monthly stopped.She missed a lot of school because she was always sick and always tired.She ended up having to take summer school because her attendance was so poor.Her grades were good though so thats a plus.
Roxann
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spiffychick85
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Posted: 19 Aug 2006 05:09 am |
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I may be late replying but I can understand what your daughter is going through. I was actively anorexic for five years...I lost so much weight my family caught on and did everything in their power to stop it and control my eating habits. The truth is until I realised what was going on in my life and realised the issues for my eating disorder there was nothing anyone could say to make me see differently. Unfortunately many girls never realise this. Eating disorders are typically not completely curable but is something we have to learn how to control day by day. Im a psychology major now specializing in eating disorders and grateful that I caught myself and came through the depression. I had stopped eating because of control issues...Im a perfectionist and when life got stressful I would start picking at myself and felt complete comfort when I controlled what I ate.
I wish your daughter a safe recovery and if she has access to a computer check to see if she visits proanorexia sites....they fueled me for quite some time and was my own support circle...They wont make u have an eating disorder but they definitely support the behaviors and make you feel normal.
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Chiffa
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Posted: 19 Aug 2006 03:59 pm |
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Very serious situation.
I will keep both you and your daughter in my thoughts and wish the best to you both.
For your choice in professional counselors, perhaps a female choice your daughter can best relate to.
And if you can find the counselor who herself is recovered from the eating/body image disorder - perhaps your daughter can see not only the dangers in her habits, but too see the way to return to health, and take strength that it can be done.
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Roxann
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Posted: 24 Aug 2006 10:32 pm |
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This is a update on my daughters eating disorder.From the time she got out of the mental hospital until the time she went to see her primary doctor which took abt a month in a half she lost 38 pounds.She still isn't eating.Just drinking water and juices.She had her labs done and her HDL is low and something abt the kidney is low. I didn't understand the kidney thing.She still wants to sleep all the time but I've been forcing her to stay awake to get her days and nights straighted out.I thought she would pull out of this by now but hasn't. As of yesterday all she did was carry a pad of paper and a pen with her. She'd write some and then cry.Some of her writings are abt. melting away to nothing and never being seen again.I took her to her counseler the other day and the counsler fears that she can have a heart attack at any moment.We are looking for hospitals that care for people with these kinds of disorders.If anybody knows of any in Michigan please let me know.Today after I got out of work I noticed her hair is starting to fall out.She use to love her hair at one time but her disorder is taking over everything.
Roxann
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Peter
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Posted: 25 Aug 2006 06:25 am |
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I read the cover story of Newsweek on anorexia last December and it had some great info:
Fighting Anorexia: No One to Blame
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10219756/site/newsweek/
Peter
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Amybcb
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Posted: 5 Nov 2006 05:07 pm |
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Hello,
I couldn't help but respond and I hope you get this. Your daughter is in need of medical help. I would definitely have her admitted into a program as she sounds like she's at a critical period in her life. Now she may be angry with you, and non-compliant initially but TRUST ME she will thank you later on. My mother used to threaten to put me in if I didn't start eating more, but I knew it was just threats. I really wish now that she had followed through sooner so that I could have gotten the help I needed back then.
It is scary she is losing so much weight so quickly and not eating at all. She could definitely have a heart attack or stroke... and she could be ruining her chances of being able to have babies someday. You can't make her eat or change how she feels about herself but you CAN be loving and supportive and let her know you care and are worried. But definitely get medical help.Last edited on 6 Nov 2006 03:29 am by
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NiceGuy182
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Posted: 22 Nov 2006 12:16 pm |
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| I totally agree. She needs to be admitted into a professional medical clinic that focuses on this sort of problem specifically. Id do a little bit of research and find out whats available country-wide. If need be, id say pull her from school and place her in that program. Her life is far more valuable than you can imagine and survival is number 1 right now. They need to take a look at her psyche and figure out what root problem shes developed mentally over this.
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