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MNTWHITTEN
New Member
| Joined: | 21 Mar 2006 |
| Location: | Utah USA |
| Posts: | 52 |
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Posted: 21 Mar 2006 03:19 pm |
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Hi I'm new here and just wanted to say hi to everyone.
I was reading some posts and started to cry. I can't believe that I'm not the only one out here with issues.
I've never been able to completely starve myself or make myself throw up. But I have thought about it.
I've been struggling with self-esteem issues for a long time now. I'm 5'2" and currently 150 lbs. But, I can't be happy with myself. Wheather I'm 120 or 150 lbs.
The sad thing is, its starting to affect my marriage. A marriage that has never had any problems. I have the most caring husband who loves me for me, but can't stand that I don't like anything about myself.
I'm the type of person and looks at everyone and compares tehm with myself. I try not to, but I wonder if I look bigger than that person or if my butt is bigger or my arms are bigger. I wonder if people can tell that I'm 150 lbs instead of 130 lbs. I even had someone stop me and my sister and ask us if we were twins. A was actually offended thinking that meant that she was thinking that we look alike but I'm the bigger sister.
I hate feeling like this and I try to do things to be more positive, but I always resort back to these stupid thoughts. Thoughts that I don't want to have.
So, I'm trying to watch what I eat and try not to overeat just 'cuz I'm bored or something sounds good. I've been excercising and hopefully this site will help.
Thanks for listening :)
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NevD
New Member
| Joined: | 26 Oct 2005 |
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Posted: 21 Mar 2006 04:31 pm |
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Hello -
It's good that you have been able to express yourself.
Now, you need a program. And it should include some written goals and some positive affirmations about yourself. One of the first steps to changing anything is to get your mind in shape first.
Good luck - you can do it.
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Be A Cow
Senior Member
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Posted: 21 Mar 2006 06:03 pm |
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| Hi new person!! This website is great, and all the people are very nice and supportive. Good luck with your new plans to start feeling better about yourself. If you write down those goals that NevD suggested--make sure you add in something that you like about yourself (it doesn't have to be physical appearance). Like a talent or a personality trait or something :) That would be a good forum topic. Good Luck again :)
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MNTWHITTEN
New Member
| Joined: | 21 Mar 2006 |
| Location: | Utah USA |
| Posts: | 52 |
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Posted: 21 Mar 2006 07:40 pm |
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Thanks for the advice. I am going to write down my goals. One immediate goal is that I want to lose even just 5-10 lbs before the first of May. I'm going to Vegas with my Hubby and I want to feel better about myself.
I'll work on my long term goals too.
I just get so frustrated. Example., all day I was thinking. Subway low fat sandwich (since I forgot my lunch) instead i get a hoagie yogi tuna sandwich. And Chips. Why can't I do what my brain is telling me i should do?
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Be A Cow
Senior Member
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Posted: 21 Mar 2006 10:51 pm |
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| How horrible is a hoagie yogi tuna sandwich?? As in--what's in it that sabotaged your entire day? Maybe it's not as bad as you think? As for the chips--how many (they aren't fabulous for dieting, but a few aren't going to kill you)? Just realize that you've had your "bad" food for the day, and make dinner really healthy (if only I could take my own advice :)) And definitely decide how you want to accomplish your goals today so you have a plan for tomorrow :)
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Peter
Founder of this forum
| Joined: | 24 May 2005 |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2006 05:50 am |
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10 lb by the 1st of May is about two a week which is typically quoted as a maximum rate that's safe. Don't be discouraged if you don't make it... it's a pretty tough goal.
Be very happy if you lose one a week. It's the long-term that's important.
Welcome!
Peter
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Graylark
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Posted: 10 Apr 2006 11:43 am |
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Hi Mintwhitten,
I ran across your post and I had to say something - I so know where you're at, especially with comparing everyone to me and tending not to recognise where I'm actually beautiful. I actually have the same stats as you right now ... but I know what you mean about not feeling satisfied at any weight. And boy, could I go on about eating things that I know are bad, even when I mean to do better :P
It's not really a smiling matter, is it, but it's just so silly sometimes...
Anyway, a couple of things. One is, it really really helps to have a motivation for losing weight. I mean, figure out what the sweetest thing will be about losing it, for you... for me it's wanting to feel comfortable in my own body again. Because then when you see the chocolate or whatever it is you can think of something concrete that you'd rather have - like J.Lo's curves ;)
And just going from my own experience, it sort of helps to realise that you're not disgusting or fat or anything no matter how you look right now (I sometimes tell myself this when I'm upset, that's the reason I mention it). It's just that your body is taking in too many calories and needs some time to balance out. I think about this particularly when that girl in line at the supermarket or whatever is so gorgeous and I just feel inadequate... it'll take time, but eventually you'll get there too.
Hope this helps a little - best of luck, having been there myself so I know you can do it.
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MNTWHITTEN
New Member
| Joined: | 21 Mar 2006 |
| Location: | Utah USA |
| Posts: | 52 |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2006 02:14 pm |
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Thanks for the nice words. :D
Everyday is a struggle with this weight loss and eating. But one day I'll overcome it.
I guess for me, the biggest thing about losing weight is just feeling comfortable and content with myself. Like I can do something positive for myself. I would feel more sexy for my husband and I would just plain like myself better.
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