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MountainMan
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Posted: 20 Sep 2010 10:01 am |
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I have been overweight my entire life. I am 24, 6'6", and 360 lbs. I have tried dieting, and so many times before felt like "this is it!". I haven't been below 300 in probably 5 years.
I will never think that it isn't my fault. I don't blame genetics, or my raisings. If I were a stronger person, I'd be thin, and that's it.
The problem is I have hit a point here lately where I just eat anything and everything, as you can imagine from someone my size, I can put away some food. I have lost all determination, and honestly, hope. I don't know where to turn, or if I should just give up until I'm that guy on Discovery Channel being paraded down the road on a forklift.
There are no 12 step programs for me, as I am not very religious and 11 out of most of the 12 steps is something to do with God, no offense to any of you Christians out there.
I look online and they say I should eat like 2900 calories and lose weight, that is laughable. I have done a lot of work and found that 1500 calories is the point at which I lose weight, which is hard to do. And I am moderately active. I have a job where I walk probably 2-3 miles a day at a good pace, and I take care of my 1 year old son when I get off.
The main thing is I have always thought before it was beatable, but I am finally deciding that I either need to give up, or get help. I know basically all surgeries/pills are extremely unhealthy. I doubt any 'moral support' will be of any help to me, so I really just have absolutely no clue what to do....for the first time :(
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Posted: 21 Sep 2010 05:38 am |
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Hey MountainMan don't give up! It's true moral support is beneficial, and it's true too that having a strong belief system in place is definitely useful if not essential to achieving weightloss, and for that matter achieving anything. But there needs also concrete actionable steps in order to compliment the belief or else it's just plain talk. I'm no weightloss guru, but I found this facebook fanpage(bit.ly/bUMhVh) to be pretty useful where there are people with similar struggles posting their victories, nuggets, up&downhills. At least u wont feel like u r alone. plus u may just find something to help u in your fight. I hope it helps. Never give up!
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Nir
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Posted: 21 Sep 2010 01:40 pm |
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When I had a problem being unable to stick to a diet, or indeed just with not binge-eating, I was lucky enough not to know anything about 12 step programs, so I did not know what to expect. The background is that I was brought up a "confirmed atheist". I found a group of people who gave me hope by telling stories of how they were once like me. It is now 3 years and 11 months since I started attending the (overeaters anonymous) meetings, I have not binged on junk food for over 3.5 years. I do not believe in any organised religion. luckily for me this is not a requirement for recovery
On the other matter, I can lose weight on 2000 calories and I have very different dimentions to you (5'5" and 115lb-120lb) so I seriously doubt you need to go much lower than 2000 to see results (assuming you're not making mistakes with counting)
one thing I found to help me was to make food choices that allowed eating large quantities of food whilst sticking to my calorie target. for guidelines this free booklet can help http://tinyurl.com/EatRightFree
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MountainMan
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Posted: 27 Sep 2010 08:41 am |
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Thanks for the book, that looks interesting.
I don't know what my deal with is the calorie thing. I do know how to count calories very accurately. But if I eat anything over 2000 calories I lose like NO weight. I mean i tried 2000 calories for 2-3 weeks and didn't lose a bit. If i drop down to 1500 it sheds off of me pretty quickly, but for someone my size that is very difficult to maintain.
Oh and I am not atheist lol, I am agnostic.
I really have to do something haha, my back went out last night, and I know why.
I appreciate all of the advise.
Last edited on 27 Sep 2010 09:03 am by MountainMan
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Tiffany T.
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Posted: 29 Sep 2010 05:49 pm |
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MountainMan,
I think you took two very important steps, and they are
1. acknowledging that you want to change, and
2. reaching out for help.
I've been obese twice, once at the age of 13, and once at the age of 26. I have battled with my weight since I was 10 years old. Up and down. Up and down. Although I can't claim to know exactly how you feel, I can relate to what you are feeling.
Please, please don't give up. Be patient with yourself and stick to your eating and exercise regimens, and it will pay off, without a doubt. You may not lose weight as quickly as you'd like, but slow weight loss is healthier and long-lasting.
I wish you the best.
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Posted: 1 Oct 2010 08:56 pm |
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Mountain Man,
I was an extremely overweight teenager and young adult. I remember looking in the mirror and wondering when the day would come that my dreams would be realized. I think that I fantasized about it, but never actually thought I could do it. Maybe for the first 3 hours of some fad, regimented diet - but soon after I knew - I would falter. I am now in the other reality. I am now in a place where I feel a sense of pride, power, and abundant energetic vibrancy from being in my body; and I was also where you are.
One of the things that you said that struck home was how you feel that there is something wrong with your will power, or your mental capacities. This is not true at all. I am now a Nutritionist by trade, and let me tell you something, I have met the most devoted, committed people in my practice who are also the most overweight. This is not an issue of lacking character traits necessary to follow through, this a biochemical, physiological issue of not being nourished.
Without going into specifics on my beliefs about nutrition, let me tell you one thing that I hope can plant a seed for you; your incessant hunger drive and desire for more is rooted in two main aspects: you are eating food that is not giving your body what it needs to feel nourished (most Americans are eating these depleted, processed foods), or you are not nourishing yourself in other ways.
Wishing you more confidence on this journey...
Natalie LINK
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