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guilelessly_harmonious
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Posted: 27 May 2010 12:43 am |
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Occasionally, I autoboost my confidence by convincing myself I am healthy, pretty, even athletic looking. Honest: I am 150 pounds, and I have myself feeling like 120. To me, there was no dillemma in doing this- but today I was proved wrong by a seven year old.
I went out to dinner, and excused myself to go to the lady's room. No joke- I was checking myself out in the mirror, thinking I look goood. But next thing you know, a young girl strolls into the restroom with her mother. Seeing them, I realized it was time to quit looking in the mirror and go to the bathroom. I huddled into a stall- just in time to here the little gal say, "That's a fat girl mom! She's fat!" And the words hit me like an upper-cut punch.
No one had ever called me fat before. You know why? Because untill about six months ago I was very healthy-looking. I was on top of my weight, but things spiraled downward and I have gained fifteen pounds. So, despite my cover of self-compliments, I was knocked to the ground by a girl almost a decade younger than me.
That moment, in that bathroom, all of my insecurities materialized in the two words "She's Fat!" Now I am so ashamed of my body!
Does anyone else remember the first time someone mentioned their weight in a negative way? Did it effect you as much as it affected me?
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Nir
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Posted: 27 May 2010 11:51 am |
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a co-worker kept calling me 'fatty' (I was overweight) when I was eating my portion of whatever junk food was provided but also his (our bosses ocassionally provided cakes and candy bars to 'motivate' us and he generally wasn't interested so it was going spare). The remarks brushed off me, I simply did not care about being overweight, it wasn't an issue for another 2 or 3 years
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Angelic Rose
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Posted: 31 May 2010 05:40 pm |
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Nobody ever really said anything to me about gaining weight (I've gained about 50 lbs since graduating high school), but I do remember my Mom saying I needed to lose more weight while I was doing modeling in high school. Maybe that was the first kick in the butt that led me down the trail of over eating--- I hated how I was judged as a model and I didn't appreciate my Mom calling me fat when I was 6'0" and 130 lbs. Now I'm weighing in around 190-192 lbs and its scary. My joints hurt more, my neck is as well-defined, I'm tired---- even my allergies and asthma are a hundred times worse. I miss going outside and not worrying about people looking at me. I hate the fact that I wear sizes 10 or 12 when I use to comfortable fit into a size 7.
My boyfriend and friends tell me I look fine, but I don't believe I look fine. My boyfriend says I'm normal, but I'm thinking "ya, but normal now-a-days is usually slightly overweight!"
So for me, its all that I see and not so much the feedback I get from people. I don't expect myself to be 130 lbs again, but I'd be thrilled to be at a very healthy 160 lbs.
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fastkat
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Posted: 1 Jun 2010 04:28 pm |
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Hi Man,
Nobody never call me fat man but since I move to a new manager job 6 ago I get fat and my song told me : I have got a big belly.
I know where this thing come from: to much time in front the computer and tons cookies. But also the stress in my job make me fat too.
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tourproven
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Posted: 1 Jun 2010 06:39 pm |
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For me, a picture is worth a thousand words. When I see myself in photos I am completely appalled and disgusted with myself. It is very unusual, because I do not see the person in the photos that I see when I look in the mirror. I guess I have some really fantastic mirrors.
But then there are always hints, when friends would refer to me as 'Big D' or some cr*p like that. Sure I'm 6'2", but I know the 'big' refers to being heavy.
Last edited on 1 Jun 2010 06:40 pm by tourproven
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itsukoi
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Posted: 24 Jun 2010 06:12 am |
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Yeah 1st grade. I was always a chunky kid, but i didnt really care or think anyone else did till then. I know 1st grade is way young to care about your weight but thats when it clicked for me.
It was recess, everyone was playing except me i was to shy and no one really seemed to like me very much. I didnt know why at the time. So finally one day i got the nerve to ask a group of girls if i could play with them. I kid you not this was there reply "no, you to fat!" that was it.
Not saying i didnt have any friend i did eventually make some and still have them today so 13 years later. :)
That really effected me, i figured from then on out that no one wanted to be my friend becasue i was "FAT" and no one likes a fat kid. I still remember my teaches face in 5th grade when she asked why i wasn't eating at the Christmas party. I just said "I'm on a diet, Because im to fat."
Im still feel im to fat to be pretty and im now 20 5'8 and 145-150pounds.
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in_wonderland
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Posted: 24 Jun 2010 03:20 pm |
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| Really the first person i remember ever saying anything or making me feel fat was my stepmother. i must have been about 14 and she said something like 'the button on your jeans looks like it is screaming for help' pretty much after that I noticed everything she said and did and how it was about my weight some how she always metioned how thin my younger step sister was and she always made me where clothes that were to big cause she claimed i couldnt fit into the others and she wouldnt let me pick out my own clothes she did my shopping and thats when my self esteem problems started
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl
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Posted: 24 Jun 2010 05:50 pm |
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| When I was young my grandma told me if I ate too much I would get fat like my aunt who was over 400lbs. She never said this to my little sister who was naturally incredibly slim so I figured that meant I must be fat.
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KristaK
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Posted: 25 Jun 2010 10:30 am |
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150lbs is not fat...  I wish I could go back to them days!
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VickyCross
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Posted: 2 Jul 2010 01:14 am |
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| The statement of that little girl can be a wakening call for you. If you are really "fat" then do something about it. Hit the gym, go in healthy diet and observe an active lifestyle. Although there is really nothing wrong in being true to ourselves and love what we have, still it is different when we deal with the problem. Obesity or excess body fats is not healthy - it can lead someone to some serious health problems in the future such as diabetes and heart attacks. So instead of pondering much on that "bathroom scene," go and do something about it. Good luck. Keep smiling, it's a beautiful world out there.
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jayaden
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Posted: 20 Jul 2010 03:09 pm |
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i use to do the same thing i mean looking in the mirror and complementing myself to boost my self confidence. But it was the day that i was in a fitting room and i heard someone outside say 'does she really think she can fit into that' that really crush me, harsh right.
since than i have been trying so hard to lose weight trying all sorts of dieting plans and everything. I was 228 3 months ago and now im 132.
what i did was a mixture of what most diet plans are all about.
Firstly i recommend the cho yong tea. Do not buy it online but at any chinese store close to you. Secondly dont listen to the whole 'don;t eat more than 3 times a day' #%@&!, what you do is eat all day long the trick being do not fill up your stomach. i know this may sound a little dumb but try it, eat enough to satisfy your stomach but not so that your full. Thirdly drink plenty of water. You will see that this will help to firstly lose all the water fat in your body and also make you feel less hungry, it turns out that the majority of the times people say their hungry that they are just thirsty so that will reduce you appitite pretty much immediatly.
lastly and this will help more than you think, you should keep a journal of all the food you eat.
believe it or not it is scientifically proven.
and theres one of the pages you will find proof on.
this diet plan helped me soo well that i am planning on making a page on it to help as many people as i can.
Best of luck :)
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl
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Posted: 20 Jul 2010 08:33 pm |
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| jayaden do you really mean you lost that much weight in only 3 months?
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jayaden
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Posted: 21 Jul 2010 01:32 pm |
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pretty much with that diet plan but i did notice i didnt mention that i did alot of
walking. About a mile a day. If you follow that i am pretty much sure that you will achieve almost the same results.
Now i am satisfied with my wieght so i cut down to just the drinking alot of water and walking alot. I eat only when i'm hungry and i havn't put the weight backon so i can say that this isnt a quick loss and gain back again diet.
Once again let me remind you that i made this diet plan up it isnt one that i was told of or one that i found online, i mixed up the main things that where in most diet plans and that was the results.
If anyone has any questions i am more than happy to help you out so you can comment either here or on my webpage which the ink is on the previous comment i left.
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